You Cannot Define What You Will Not Look at Honestly

A discription for everybody.Change is the only thing you can guarantee when you’re on the road to self-discovery because with each new insight into yourself, you will change; sometimes the change is noticeable to everybody but most of the time it is only noticeable by the change in your thought process. Of course, you can only change as long as you are honest with yourself, you have to look closely at yourself and everybody in your life without hiding from the things you don’t like.

Honesty is not everybody’s cup of tea; an awful lot of people want to procrastinate or blame other people for the problems they experience rather than looking closely at their actions. How did their thoughts, words and actions attract the wrong things into their lives?

I know I spent a great deal of time as a young person people-watching or procrastinating as I call it now; I thought if I got some understanding into other people it would give me a better insight into life. I was wrong, the only way to get an understanding into life is to look deep within yourself and then determine if you like what you find. The wonderful thing is, you are then in a position to change the most important person in your life.

“When you change, the whole world around you changes too.” When you look within yourself you get to decide if the change is positive or negative. “Examine your opinions carefully.”

When you spend enough time examining your own thoughts, you understand you cannot possibly hope to understand anybody else’s journey, so you stop trying; if somebody wants to let you know what they’re thinking; don’t guess, let them tell you when they’re ready.

I’ll leave you with this quote,

“Everybody is human, everybody makes mistakes, nobody’s perfect but everybody can change.”


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What You Imagine is Not Always Based on Reality

Your imagination is not .“The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence,” is a sentence a lot of people believe is true until they jump the fence and find out it’s been fertilized by their imaginations. They thought other people were living a better life because they were looking from the outside; when they got to experience that life up close and personal, they were disappointed because their expectations and reality were so different.

Being tempted to jump the fence is not a bad thing unless you jump without reflecting why you need to move from your current location. When you identify the cause behind your discontent, you are in a position to fix the real reason why you’re unhappy.

If you jump without finding out the real reason, the circle will just begin again. The following quotes are worth noting;

  • “The person who is unhappy in a small house will be equally unhappy in a big house.”
  • “A person who his happy with themselves will bring happiness with them everywhere they go.”
  • “The Devil doesn’t come dressed in a red cape and pointy horns. He comes as everything you’ve ever wished for.” ~Tucker Max

The last couple are true for most people.

  • “Lead me not into temptation. I can find the way myself.” ~Jane Seabrook.
  • “Let ye who have not been tempted cast the first remark.”
  • “Logic will take you from A to B. Your imagination will take you everywhere.” ~Albert Einstein.



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I Treat People Like I Treat Music

My life is simpleMy taste in music covers many genres, I like all sorts of songs from AC/DC’s, “we will rock you,” to Ravel’s, “Belaro.” I don’t judge the artist, I judge the sound they make and how appealing it is to my ears. I treat people the same way, it doesn’t matter what they look like or from what background, if I like the words and tone they use, I will like them.

The opposite is not true; I don’t hate other music, I just will not listen to it; if a song comes on the radio, I will generally not hear it unless somebody brings it to my attention or I will switch channel.

I treat people the same way; Celebrities are a bit easier to deal with than people who are in your life because of other people or situations you have no control over. With celebrities, you can do the same as the radio, switch channel. With friends of friends or work colleagues, you have to switch them off mentally.

Switching them of mentally is not ignoring them but that happens eventually; you have to treat them using white noise techniques. You have to accept them for who they are; you have to accept you have no control over their thoughts, words or actions. Every time you see them, start humming your favourite song; this fools your brain into believing they are somebody you like and when you follow those techniques for a while, you will stop having an emotional reaction to their presence. Remember; “Life’s ten percent of what happens and ninety percent of how you react to it.”

One of life’s greatest lessons is;

“Your thoughts and emotions will control you if you don’t learn to control them.”

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4 Blessings Every Day Should Bring to Everybody

Sunrise 6

you cant ask for anything else.

Sunset 3

Pride is something we all want.

“The best things in life are free.”

“Bring hope, happiness and peace to your life every day.”

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Strength Comes Through Your Genes

You come from good stock.

“It doesn’t matter how many times you fall down as long as you keep getting up.”

“I know I’m different, I’ve known it my entire life but now I’m going to embrace those differences because that’s what makes me unique.”

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Every Problem has a Solution When You Identify the Cause

Words come easy to me.“Life is ten percent what happens to you and ninety percent how you respond to it.” ~Lou Holtz –

In life, we will experience some or all of the following events, this is the ten percent of what happens.

  • Loss of a loved one
  • Divorce
  • Family
  • Bullying
  • Money
  • Loss of a job
  • Getting married
  • Buying a house
  • Illness

Our emotional reaction to these events falls into the ninety percent we have some control over.

  • Grief
  • Stress
  • Depression
  • Anger
  • Guilt
  • Low self-esteem

For some people the emotional response can be devastating but for people who generally have a positive approach to life’s problems, the emotional reaction can be short-lived.

Some of my favourite positive quotes for dealing with life’s problems are,

  1. “You must be prepared to live and die by the decisions you make every day.”
  2. “Every decision you made was the right decision for you.”
  3. “Expect people to be themselves and you will never be disappointed.”
  4. “Nobody is perfect.”
  5. “C’est la vie.”
  6. “Sometimes it’s them but more often it’s how you react to their actions.”
  7. “Nothing and nobody lasts forever.”
  8. “Embrace change.”
  9. “Let it go.”
  10. “Sometimes problems disappear with your old attitudes”
  11. “There’s a little bit of truth in everything you see.”
  12. “What doesn’t kill you will make you stronger.”
  13. “The light at the end of the tunnel is coming closer every day.”
  14. “Everybody is fighting a battle you do not understand.”
  15. “What’s meant for you will not pass you by.”
  16. “Don’t take life too seriously. You’ll never get out of it alive.” ~Elbert Hubbard



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Some Questions Need to be Answered to Accomplish Anything

What do you want to achieve


is it useful

When do want to achieve your goal.

What skills do you have.

what skills do you need.

Who will help you.


It's never too late to start.

Believing is making it happen.



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You Really Need to Focus on Your Most Important Relationship

What you think of you is important.The most important relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself. If you think you deserve the very best this world has to offer, you will attract the best people and the best things into your life.

The opposite is also true;

If your favourite thoughts are; “I’ll never get it.” or “I’m not good enough.” These are self-fulfilling prophecies, the more you believe in these statements, the more miserable your life will be. The following quote is true;

“You will receive nothing more than you think you deserve.”

If you’ve spent your life surrounded by people who are mean to you; you don’t think you deserve any better so you put up with them. It doesn’t matter if one person leaves your group, they will be replaced by somebody else who treats you just as badly.

However, if you improve the relationship you have with yourself, those people will leave and you will attract people who will treat you better, yourself included.

How do you improve the relationship you have with yourself?

  • The first step is realising you need to improve the opinion you have of yourself.
  • The second step is listing all the things you like and dislike about yourself.
  • The third step is to determine which things you can change and which things you can’t.

Your height, the size of your feet or the colour of your eyes fall into the category of things you can’t change, they are only examples but you get the idea.

Things you can change are your attitude, your diet, your fitness and your opinions.

  • The fourth step is to accept the things you can’t change are perfect just the way they are.
  • The fifth step is to outline how you’re going to change the things you can change.
  1. Read material on how to live a positive life.
  2. Stop paying attention to negative news stories.
  3. Stop listening to negative people.
  4. Stop judging yourself and everybody else.
  5. Examine your opinions to see if they’re still relevant.
  6. Believe everybody you know has your best interests at heart.
  7. Listen to meditation material on, “living in the now.”
  8. Release your emotional attachments to people and events from your past.
  9. Accept your history is not an indication of your future.
  10. Start a fitness regime, even if it’s a ten minute walk every day to begin with. Repeat this slogan, “I’m getting stronger, fitter, faster every day when you’re walking.
  11. Eat in moderation and always take your time because it takes up to 20 minutes for your stomach to tell your brain it’s full.
  • Step six is to pick a time every day to sit for 15 minutes are repeat the following positive affirmations.
  1. Every day is a great day.
  2. I’m finding more reasons to be happy every day.
  3. I love and approve of myself.
  4. I forgive everybody who has ever disappointed me.
  5. I am getting more perfect every day.
  6. I attract wonderful people into my life.
  7. I always look for the best in other people.
  8. I’m delighted to be alive.
  9. I’m getting healthier every day.
  10. I deserve the very best things this world has to offer.
  • Step 7 stay strong because it only takes minutes to read this post but it will take months to feel the changes you want to see.

I’ll leave you with the following quotes;

  1. “Your world revolves around your thoughts.”
  2. “Life is 10% of what happens and 90% of how you react.”
  3. “What you see in other people exists in you.”
  4. “What you send out into the world will be returned to you with interest.”
  5. “Your purpose in life is to become the become the best possible version of you.”
  6. “What’s meant for you will not pass you by.”
  7. “If you don’t want to change your life, nobody can help you; if you want to change your life, nobody can stop you because when you change your attitude, you change your life.”


“The relationship you have with yourself is the basis for every relationship you will have with other people. When you love being with yourself; other people will love being with you.”

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Only One Emotion Can Set You Free

Only love can set you freeFear anger sadness hate joy disgust surprise trust and anticipation are emotional reactions to your life experiences, but they are not the answer to life’s problems. There is only one reaction that will improve your life, and that is love.

“Life is 90% of what happens and 10% of how you react.”

  • Fear stops you from accomplishing the things you want to achieve because fear makes you afraid of change.
  • Anger prevents you from seeing the real problem, it clouds your thought process into believing somebody else is responsible for your actions.
  • Sadness is a necessary emotion, it gives you an outlet when you feel abandoned by people who have not lived up to your expectations or departed.
  • Hate is a waste of emotional energy; the only saying of, “hate is the equivalent of taking poison and hoping the other person would suffer,” springs to mind.
  • Joy is that wonderful feeling you get when you accomplish one of your goals, it’s normally prevails for a short length of time and then there is that hollow feeling of, “What next”.
  • Disgust is that emotion you feel when people act in ways which is abhorrent to society in general. A good example of this is the emotional response to the former doctor to the American gymnast team. I would name him but that would give him more attention than he deserves.
  • Trust is a necessary emotion, but even the most trusting person becomes a little bit cynical over time. “Trust everybody until they prove they can’t be trusted.”
  • Anticipation is an emotion the whole world appreciates when you’re going to get a present you deserve; Santa Clause only exists because of it; every child spends months each year waiting for the big day. Of course, it has the other effect as well, and student who sits outside the principle’s office waiting for their parents to arrive will give testament to that.
  • Love is the panacea for everything, if you learn to love yourself for who you are, and love everybody else for who they are, you will never find yourself in emotional jail.

Of course that doesn’t mean you go around the world telling people how much you love them, that’s God’s job.

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Common Sense is Not Always Easy To Follow

The lights are on..Common sense often over simplifies incredibly complicated situations but when you look back at how you solved the problems you were experiencing, you often resorted to common sense ideas. The following are just a few common sense ideas I’ve gathered over the years.

  • “Don’t judge a book by its cover.”
  • “It can take years to realise the only place short cuts work is on a keyboard.”
  • “The most important lesson to learn from any mistake is to not make that mistake again.”
  • “People with common sense are hard to find.”
  • “If you don’t look where you’re going, you’ll end up going where you’re looking.” ~Crash
  • “Give somebody enough rope and they will surely hang themselves.”
  • “You can force a lot of things but you can’t force life.”
  • “Experience can lead to common sense but not everybody learns from experience.”
  • “Forgive your past; pay attention to the present because it’s a gift denied to many.”
  • “A door mat will clean everybody’s shoes but even that wears out eventually; that’s the equivalent of trying to please everybody all the time, you become a door mat.”
  • “Don’t start anything unless you intend to finish it.”
  • “Actions speak louder than words.”
  • “Overcome your insecurities; If you don’t know how, ask somebody else.”
  • “A Positive attitude attracts positive results.”
  • “Stop trying to impress people who don’t know you exist.”
  • “When you cross a bridge, decide whether is needs to be burned or not, and be prepared to die with that decision.” ~ No regrets.
  • “You will face enough real problems in your life, don’t invent problems by over thinking.”
  • “Understanding what’s within your power to control is vital for your sanity.” ~“Let it go.”
  • “Respect yourself.”
  • “Successful people do not get to be successful by wishing for success, they get there by working for it.” ~ “I became an overnight success after 25 years.”
  • “I don’t know but I will find out.” Is a good answer.
  • “The only thing you can change in an instant is your attitude, everything else takes time.”
  • “I know what you’re thinking,” is guesswork at best, and foolishness at worst.
  • “People will spread lies far quicker than they will share the truth.” ~C’est la vie.
  • “If plan A doesn’t work, don’t worry there is another 25 letters in the English alphabet.”
  • “It’s better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.” ~Mark Twain
  • “Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water.”
  • “Take a deep breath and release it slowly.”
  • “There is 8760 hours in a year, don’t allow what happens is 24 hours spoil the other 8736.”
  • “Failure is not the end, it’s merely the beginning of a new journey.”
  • Have a life motto. “I have complete control over my thoughts, emotions, actions and words.”
  • “What you believe is often more real than the truth.”
  • “You cannot live a positive life with a negative attitude.”
  • “The most important person you need to know is yourself.”
  • “Everything will work out for you in the end, otherwise it’s not the end it’s merely the end of another chapter in your autobiography.”

Please leave your own favorites in the comments section below.

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