Most men are practically orientated, they believe if somebody is telling them about their problems they’re actually asking for help in finding a solution.
Of course, most women don’t have the same mindset, they’re more emotionally orientated. They believe that telling their nearest and dearest about their problems is their way of showing how much they trust them.
The two sentences above is the main reason why men and women don’t communicate with each other in a meaningful way all the time.
Man doesn’t know when he’s supposed to just listen because man is not designed that way.
How do you fix that breakdown in communication?
You’d think there would be a very simple solution to this question. At the beginning of the conversation every woman should simply tell their partner, “I just want you to listen to me without replying.”
This of course is going to cause another breakdown in communication because while man hears the words, “I want you to listen without reply,” he interprets them as, “you can think about football while I’m complaining about my life.” And when his wife asks that all important question at the end.
Well, what do you think? The man is left speechless because was told to listen without replying and when he says, “what did you say?” That’s when the war started.
So, how do you fix the communication breakdown between men and women?
It’s quite simple really, women should talk to other women when they want an emotional ear to hear them and they should speak to men when they need a practical solution.
That’s very sexist you say. You could well be right, however, that’s how society worked for generations and the male mind hasn’t traveled far enough from his hunter-gatherer roots to become more like woman yet.
I say yet because the way the world is changing, we may be moving towards a situation where the only difference between the sexes is a pronoun. (I could put in another word but a famous author recently got into trouble for using that distinction.) Whether that’s a good or bad thing will be determined at some point in the future.
I’ll leave you with one final thought,
Practical people and emotional people are rarely the same people.