Would you buy negativity? Thankfully, I don’t know anybody who would answer yes to that question, however, you don’t have to these days because it’s given out for free everywhere you go.
The good news is.
It’s your life, and you get to choose how much of your attention you give to any particular topic including the negative ones.
How your attention works.
Pick anything you haven’t done in a few years and try to remember everything you can about it. You’ll find it difficult to remember anything specific, you’ll remember the big things, however, the small bits will be lost to time.
For example, when I was a younger person, I used to play football and soccer. I spent a great deal of time playing games, training and having the craic with the lads after the games. Years later my memory of those events is sketchy at best. I’ve a few medals somewhere for winning the county championships. However, if you asked me to recollect anything about those games? I couldn’t tell you anything except; after the Football county final, a couple of us left straight away to go and play a soccer match. Oh, and on the way home in the car I experienced the one and only cramp I’ve ever experienced during my life time. (TBTG)
You could say, “you weren’t paying attention to those events at the time.” And you’d be correct. I only remember the things that were out of the ordinary.
Pay attention to what’s important.
At that time, I wasn’t paying attention by accident, these days I’m a bit more conscious of the things I pay attention to and the things I ignore. Anybody who follows this blog will know my aim is to be as positive as I practically can be.
This is the case with covid-19 in particular. At the beginning of the pandemic I read quite a number of articles about what is was and how it was transmitted. At one point I came to the conclusion, nobody knew where it was heading and how it was going to be stopped, so I stopped paying attention to information relating to the virus, including all the conspiracy theorists online who claim it’s going to end life as we know it. The human race has known similar situations in the past and as you know the population is still rising.
I know the virus is dangerous, however, I also know that if I maintain a respectful space between me and everybody outside of my home. I will not add to or take away from the number of victims.
Since I made that decision, I’m free to get on with my life. I don’t need daily updates on how many people the virus has taken before their time. I don’t need to know about how the virus is affecting people on the other side of the world. I don’t need to hear about the doom and gloom being spread online. I don’t need to know about how many people are losing their jobs.
The reason I don’t need to know these things is, I cannot help them in any meaningful way and listening to that information too often is not good for anybody’s health.
I used the pandemic as an example of how, when you remove your attention away from something that’s outside of your control, you release your need to worry about it too. You can do the same with everything that’s negative in your life. If you can’t fix it, let it go.
I’ll leave you with one final thought.
A person with a positive attitude will see and hear agreement, compliments and respect everywhere they go, however, the opposite is also true, people with a negative attitude will hear condescension, insults and slander.
The thing to remember here is, “they both heard the same sentence.”
“The day you make a conscious decision to stop listening for insults is very nearly the last day you will hear them.” ~Anon