I hate you, I don’t love you anymore, I despise the ground you walk on, you’re an idiot, you make my skin crawl are all emotional door sentences.
The emotion one person feels towards another human being; the reasons behind the outbursts is not given, so therefore there is no way the person on the receiving end of the outbursts can possibly change in any meaningful way to make the angry person change their mind about them.
I hate you because you don’t pay enough attention to me…is a rarity because people don’t think rationally when they’re angry or upset, they just lash out with words they’re sure is going to upset the other person. They may or may not mean to be so cruel, but the person on the receiving end is not going to know that.
Those emotional doors can only be closed by the person that opened them in the first place unless they give more information to the person on the receiving end of the emotional outbursts.
“Arguments are rarely rational but they’re always destructive. And the hardest word to speak after an argument is SORRY.”
The best advice I ever receive was; “Don’t open emotional doors you don’t want to walk through or have slammed in your face.”