Fear is our emotional reaction to the world around us, we can let it cripple us, or we can use it to make our lives better. The following are six of the most common fears, let’s look at how they can influence our lives.
Fear of Poverty: I don’t know anybody who, out of choice wants to live in poverty and that’s why It’s one of the driving forces behind most people’s choice of career. We pick a career that most suits our talents in the hope of attracting enough wealth to avoid being classified as poor. That’s positive, but there can be a negative side to of fear of poverty too, when you attract the wealth and then decide that under no circumstances are you going to spend it, because you might need it as some point in the future. This is negative because you are always worried about not having enough to survive.
“The richest man in the graveyard is not the one who has the most money in his bank account when he dies but the man who has enough money in his bank account to bury him.”
*Life is for living, not saving.*
Fear of Criticism: “All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players,” ~William shakespeare. The man and woman who spends their life waiting on other people to determine if what they do is right or wrong will listen to a lot of compliments and insults in equal number because every has a different opinion on what is right and what is wrong with other people’s behaviour. When you spend enough thinking about that sentence, you will have to reach one conclusion, “the only person in this world you need to impress is yourself.” At least that way you are argueing with somebody’s opinion it is within your ability to change.
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” ~ Reinhold Niebuhr
Fear of Sickness: The day I stopped using the internet to determine my illness was the day the result came back, “check to see if they’re dead.” If you spend your whole life looking for signs of illness, you will find them, and find them in abundance, because if you will always find what you’re looking for. The way to defeat this fear is to constantly look for ways in which you are healthy, if you can get out of bed in the morning, go to the bathroom, get dressed, etc, etc, apprciate all the thoughts and muscles that are required to get those tasks done. Always have an image in your mind of what you wish to look like, and your mind will find a way of making it a reality.
“A sick thought can devour the body’s flesh more than fever or consumption.” ~ Guy de Maupassant
Fear of Unrequited Love: “To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead.” ~Bertrand Russell. All animals including humans are born to improve upon what has gone before, suvival of the fittest dictates animal progression but in humans it’s a bit more complicated, love is involved, the deeper the love the deeper the intense need to do what animals do naturally; create new life. To spend one’s life hiding away from this kind of love is equivalent of hiding away from what comes naturally.
“I’m much more me because I had the privilege of loving you.” ~
Fear of old Age: “Do not regret growing old, it is a privilege denied to many.” ~ Unknown. Old age is state of mind, not a period of time. Some people are old at thirty and some people never grow old, for they do not believe old age applies to them, they will be young until their dying day. They have a point because unless you study people who are older than you, you will not know what it’s like to be old, as one person said, “how do I know how to act like a 70 year old, I’ve never been this age before.” If you want to look at this fear from a logical point of view. Unless you learn to control time during your lifetime, it will continue on its never ending journey regardless of what you think.
“The best way for somebody to find out they’re old is for it to creep up on them unannouced.”
Fear of Death: This is one of the greatest waste of your emotions, it’s the equivalent of worrying about the direction of the wind, no matter how much worry about its direction and strength, there’s nothing you can do about it. In my lifetime I have not engaged with the afterlife, that’s not to say it doesn’t exist, I just don’t have the knowledge and skills to interact with the spirits that may or may not exist there, and to be honest I like to spend my time thinking about what I’m going to do with my life than fearing what will happen when I die, which is guaranteed, just not yet.
“The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.” ~Mark Twain.
Fear is something that is always over your shoulder, just hiding out of sight, the faster you run from it, the faster it comes, you know it’s there without seeing it, but the strangest things is, one day you will get tired of running from your fears and you will turn around to face it, only to find out it was never there at all, it only existed within your imagination.