You can choose to walk, jog or run, and you can decide how fast you will do any of them. You can also decide to do none of them. That’s your decision.
If you’re happy with your decision, nothing anybody else can say will upset you; if you’re upset with what other people are saying, you’re just upset with yourself.
For example; if somebody said you have a great smile, you’d agree with them and be happy they said it. If somebody said you’re lazy, that smile might just vanish, or you may smile and say, you’re right.
Knowing who you are is important for your peace of mind.