Stress is caused when your mind tries to find a resolution to a problem when you do not have the information or power to solve it.
Example: If you consider stressful situations are like being stuck in the middle lane of the traffic jam like that white car.
Unknowable: You don’t know what’s causing the tailback or how long it will take you to get to your destination. You don’t know whether the lanes on either side of you will go faster or slower if you move into them.
What you know: You know the traffic jam will not last forever, eventually the traffic with thin out and you will get moving forward again.
During those stressful moments in your life the only logical option is to accept the following. You are where you are meant to be and you will arrive at your destination when you’re meant to arrive.
I’ll leave you with a couple of lines that employ common sense.
When you believe in your future, nobody can take it away from you.
According to all known laws of aviation, there’s no way that a male bee should be able to fly. Its wings are too small to get its fat little body off the ground, however, the male bee doesn’t care what humans believe so he continues to fly effortlessly along.
That’s one valuable lesson people can learn from the humble bee: Don’t listen to people with limited beliefs about what’s possible.
You may be talented, inspired and motivated, however, if you don’t believe in yourself, those traits will only get you so far. Remember, your belief in yourself is your super power, it gives that edge over everybody else who is competing with you.
How do you believe in yourself?
I’ll leave you with a couple of my favourite quotes:
How other people think and act will determine what they attract into their lives (their karma), your thoughts and actions will determine your Karma.
Cursing your enemies may sound like a fun thing to do; “May you get the runs on your wedding night.” or “may you get an itch you can’t reach, are two popular Irish curses. However, they’re your thoughts and if you wish those things for somebody else, you’re really wishing them for yourself.
You’d be better off wishing for them to experience a wonderful happy and healthy life, and wishing for them to win a fortune every year they’re alive. Now, that’s something worth receiving.
How Karma works: If you work on the theory that your karmic force is an all-powerful 14-month-old baby, who doesn’t know right from wrong, positive from negative, good from evil and whose ability to understand language is almost non-existent. All they understand are images and emotions. That’s why the information you’re sending to your karmic force needs to be clear.
If you’re forever cursing people, your karmic force will guide you to find more people to curse. If you’re wishing happiness for people, it will look for people and events to bring more happiness into your life. I’ll leave you with one final thought;
If you knew how powerful your thoughts and emotions are, you’d never concentrate on a negative one.
A picture is but a moment in time and doesn’t necessarily portray what is actually happening. Before you continue please have a look at the picture and tell me which car has a bad driver?
The majority of people will think the driver of the car that’s taking up two spaces is the bad driver, however, the majority in this situation would be incorrect.
The bad driver is actually the driver of the car beside the silver car.
“How?” I’m glad you asked that question. Originally, the driver of the silver car had parked in one space and his partner had been able to get out of the car and go into the shop without any trouble.
While the driver’s partner was in the store, the other car arrived and parked beside the silver car but as you can see, that car didn’t leave enough space so that when the driver’s partner came out she wouldn’t be able to get into the car.
The driver of the silver car decided to be courteous to his partner by moving the car so there would be enough room for her to enter the car.
Of course, people who didn’t witness the entire story unfold will think the guy driving the silver car is just a bad driver.
The lesson to be learned from this situation is, before you take sides in any story, make sure you know who’s responsible for the actions you’re witnessing because it’s not always obvious. I’ll leave you with one old adage.
There’s always at least three sides to every story. My side, your side and the truth.
For those observant people, you’re correct, the driver of the silver car could have moved into the free space that half of his car is in, maybe he is a bad driver after all. Who knows? I didn’t stay for the entire show either.
You may think you can’t separate your mind from your body, however, that’s not true, the majority of people rarely keep the two together.
The truth is, people let their minds wander around Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram, LinkedIn or any number of online social media platforms.
If they’re not online, they’re looking at the clouds, black cats, four leaf clovers, rainbows or any other means by which they can determine how their life is going to unfold.
When they’re finished with those mediums, they send their minds into the world of television to escape from a reality they’d prefer not to face.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with doing that, as long as you’re aware of what you’re doing and why you’re doing it.
The question is, will you find happiness doing any of those things? I believe the answer is a resounding no.
“Why?” Because, happiness only truly exists when your mind and body are in total harmony.
If you would like to experience this sensation, go for a walk anywhere there’s nature present and listen to your breathing for five to ten minutes. You’ll hear a great deal more than your breath. (The more you do it, the easier it becomes.)
Remember to leave your electronic devices at home. If you bring the fake world with you, you’ll not be able to hear the real one. I’ll leave you with an interesting quote that sums up a lot of people’s life.
“People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own souls. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.” ~Carl Jung
Insults are not funny to the people being insulted, however, those people are prepared to laugh when they think the jokes are aimed at somebody else. And who can blame them, if you take all the fun out of life, what’s left?
“Don’t take life too seriously, you’ll not get out of it alive anyway.” ~Elbert Hubbard
If you want somebody to follow procedures, invite them for an interview. If you want somebody who’s going to make a difference, invite them for a conversation.
The following questions and answers are my idea of having fun at an interview, not how to make a good impression. If you used some of the answers, there’s a very good possibility you’d not be asked to attend a second interview. Enjoy.
What’s your greatest strength? The ability to ask intelligent questions.
What’s your greatest weakness? Answering unintelligent questions.
Tell me about a time you went above and beyond? One of most difficult questions you can ask somebody who always gives 100 percent.
What can you bring to the company? Everything you need in an employee.
How would you describe yourself? Sarcastic, funny, realist, honest, optimist, pessimist, angry, soft, irritable, happy, annoying, grateful, arrogant, active, mannerly, respectful, trustworthy, perfectionist, well-balance and loyal.
How do you work under pressure? There is no pressure when you understand what you’re doing.
What’s your dream job? Lottery winner of course.
What interests you about the role? The salary.
Tell me about your experience? I’ve found most managers have little or no idea about motivating the people they manage, however, I’ve found they will do what they need to do to impress their own manager.
What does customer service mean to you? Good customer service is never discussed, excellent customer service is rarely discussed. Bad customer service is at the centre of every discussion.
Why are you interested in this position? My dream job hasn’t turned up yet.
How do you handle conflict in work? I explain why I’m right and get on with the job at hand.
How do you prevent conflict in work? I don’t explain why I’m right and get on with doing it the wrong way.
What skills do you bring to the job? The ability to learn.
Are you overqualified for the role? Is there a right answer to this question.
Why are you leaving your current position? I can’t get my current manager promoted.
What makes you unique? It’s either the tattoo on my right leg or my sense of humour.
Where do you see yourself in five years? Hopefully in the local pub having a few pints, covid-19 willing.
How do you define success? Spending five years in a position without my manager finding out I stopped listening to them after two years.
Can you explain the gaps in your resume? Yes, but I’d prefer not to, I really want this position.
The best advice you can give anybody going to an interview is. Only say as much as you need to, nothing more. Remember, whatever is not said cannot be judged.
Honesty is not always the best policy where interviews are concerned.
Your wardrobe and your mind have a lot in common. If neither are organised, you’ll never find what you’re looking for when you need it.
How the memory works.
Three hours later I remembered everything. A saying far too many people recognise.
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