I aspire to be a positive influence on everybody who wants to be positive

 

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Every day you decide your future

What’s your answer?

Change begins with a decision to change.

Your thoughts are the solution to every stressful event you encounter

Stress is caused when your mind tries to find a resolution to a problem when you do not have the information or power to solve it.

Example: If you consider stressful situations are like being stuck in the middle lane of the traffic jam like that white car.

Unknowable: You don’t know what’s causing the tailback or how long it will take you to get to your destination. You don’t know whether the lanes on either side of you will go faster or slower if you move into them.

What you know: You know the traffic jam will not last forever, eventually the traffic with thin out and you will get moving forward again.

• Another thing you know is, being stressed about your current situation is not going to help you in any positive way.

During those stressful moments in your life the only logical option is to accept the following. You are where you are meant to be and you will arrive at your destination when you’re meant to arrive.

I’ll leave you with a couple of lines that employ common sense.

• If your actions don’t relieve your stress, you’ve got to learn how to change how you think about the cause of your stress.
• Stress is something you embrace, you have the power to release it.
• Stress is clearly the result of not thinking clearly.
• You should never stress about what you cannot possibly know.
• Whatever you accept will not cause you stress.

Your phone cannot grant you peace

Too many people use their phone to escape from their everyday life, however, one day, they will realise the world they’re escaping to is far worse than the one they’re leaving behind because it’s based on everybody’s fictional lifestyle.

Don’t compare your life to the one fabulous life you read about on your phone, compare it to the millions of people who have their heads buried in their own phone just like you.

Peace and happiness are the two goals everybody wants to achieve; the only place these are found is within you. If you try to find them anywhere else, you will spend a life-time looking for them.

The day you find peace and happiness within you is the day everybody else’s troubles will cease to be important to you because you’ll let them look after their own peace and happiness.

Remember: You can guide, you cannot give.

Believing in yourself is good for you

When you believe in your future, nobody can take it away from you.

According to all known laws of aviation, there’s no way that a male bee should be able to fly. Its wings are too small to get its fat little body off the ground, however, the male bee doesn’t care what humans believe so he continues to fly effortlessly along.

That’s one valuable lesson people can learn from the humble bee: Don’t listen to people with limited beliefs about what’s possible.

You may be talented, inspired and motivated, however, if you don’t believe in yourself, those traits will only get you so far. Remember, your belief in yourself is your super power, it gives that edge over everybody else who is competing with you.

How do you believe in yourself?

1. Accept yourself for who you are today.
2. Look back on everything you have accomplished in your life. For example; if you have passed one exam in your life, you’re capable of passing every exam you will take in your future.
3. Talk out loud to yourself, tell yourself how energetic, powerful, strong and courageous you are. If you feel uncomfortable letting other people hear you, put a pair of earphones in and they will think you’re motivating somebody using your mobile phone.
4. Allow yourself to make mistakes. Believe me when I tell you, every leader makes mistakes all the time, they’re just better at hiding them.
5. Learn from everybody you admire. Take the traits you admire most about them and adopt them to suit your purpose.
6. Adopt a positive attitude towards everything.
7. Live in the moment, if something isn’t going right for you at any given time, don’t cling to that moment, let it go. There will be plenty of moments when everything will go right for you.
8. Listen to, and accept compliments from other people with gratitude.
9. Don’t pay attention to insults. They’re normally given by weak people who think they will make them strong.
10. You are not alone.
11. Share your opinions. However, don’t expect everybody to agree with you.
12. Don’t allow your past to anchor you to the past.
13. Believe in your destiny, you were put on this planet for a good reason.

I’ll leave you with a couple of my favourite quotes:

• “Every saint has a past, every sinner a future.” ~Oscar Wilde.
• “We are what we believe we are.” ~C.S. Lewis.
• “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt.
• “Never stop trying. Never stop believing. Never give up. Your day will come.” ~Mandy Hale.

 

Karma what goes around comes around

How other people think and act will determine what they attract into their lives (their karma), your thoughts and actions will determine your Karma.

Cursing your enemies may sound like a fun thing to do; “May you get the runs on your wedding night.” or “may you get an itch you can’t reach, are two popular Irish curses. However, they’re your thoughts and if you wish those things for somebody else, you’re really wishing them for yourself.

You’d be better off wishing for them to experience a wonderful happy and healthy life, and wishing for them to win a fortune every year they’re alive. Now, that’s something worth receiving.

How Karma works: If you work on the theory that your karmic force is an all-powerful 14-month-old baby, who doesn’t know right from wrong, positive from negative, good from evil and whose ability to understand language is almost non-existent. All they understand are images and emotions. That’s why the information you’re sending to your karmic force needs to be clear.

If you’re forever cursing people, your karmic force will guide you to find more people to curse. If you’re wishing happiness for people, it will look for people and events to bring more happiness into your life. I’ll leave you with one final thought;

If you knew how powerful your thoughts and emotions are, you’d never concentrate on a negative one.

What could you do today to improve your life?

The only way you can improve today is to change how you think about it. Our thoughts determine our life. Happy thoughts-happy life. Believing in the following eleven lines make my life better every day. I hope you like them, if you don’t? Number 8 applies to you.

1. Everything of real value takes time to accumulate. Instant gratification doesn’t exist in anything that will add long-term value to your life. Family, career, strength & fitness, wisdom. They all take time, a lot of time.
2. Learn to be happy with what you have. Happiness consists of being grateful for everything you have in your life. If you tie your happiness to things that can be taken away from you; you have not found happiness.
3. Your parents can only do so much for you. You are special to your parents and always will be, however, when you leave your house you’ll have to compete with every other special child. If you’re incredibly lucky you will be competing with them on a level playing field.
4. There is more good in the world than there is evil. I know it appears to be the other way round most of the time but that’s because good news doesn’t sell, and people who want to sell you things to make your life better have to show you how your life is not good enough as it is.
5. Believe in a higher power. You will be held accountable for your actions in this life.
6. Ask yourself how you can improve the world? For the majority of people, this is a question where all the answers are outside of their control, however, if you believe the world is changed for the better every time one person improves their life. You are that one person today.
7. You are not entitled to live the life you want to live. First you have to believe you deserve that life and then you have to go out and work for it.
8. To like or to be liked on social media platforms should not determine your self-worth. The whole point of sharing something online is because you like it. If other people like it too, that’s great. However, if they don’t like it, that’s okay because they’re entitled to their opinion even one you disagree with.
9. Question everything you think is true. Everybody has a different outlook on life, and they will tell their stories from that view point. They may or may not have an agenda for sharing their stories with you but it’s always worth asking the question. Why are they telling me this?
10. Do your homework? Before you formulate an opinion on anything, do your homework. Read work from three specialists who disagree with each other, somewhere in the middle of their discussion lies the truth you’re looking to find.
11. What will your legacy be to the next generation? The purpose of life is to find your purpose. Remember; you never know who you’re inspiring by just being you.

I’ll leave you with one final thought on happiness.

Living a happy life doesn’t mean you will always be happy because that’s not how happiness works. Living a happy life means you know when happiness disappears, it’s only temporary.

Ordinary decent people act like ordinary decent people

Ordinary decent people act like ordinary decent people, they do not act like criminals. Anybody who doesn’t know the difference should end up in jail.

I could write down a list of things ordinary decent people do, however, that’s not necessary because ordinary decent people were raised by ordinary decent parents who taught their children right from wrong.

It’s a pity that a small minority of people were not taught the same lessons. I’m not going to write down a list of the things those people do either because they’re not likely to be the type of person who will read this post and learn not to be a criminal.

To this day I’m incredibly grateful to my parents who helped make me the person I am today and that is an ordinary decent person.

Insults are not designed to elicit gratitude, however

Insults are not designed to elicit gratitude, however, replying to an insult with a compliment is often the best response. I’ll explain why I think that way.

The normal responses to insults.

The normal responses to insults include but are not limited to.

• Getting angry.
• Insult them back.
• Throw a tantrum.
• Cry.
• Accept the insult as the truth.
• Plotting revenge.
• Ignore the insult.
• Inform Hr in a professional environment or the Teacher in a school environment.

None of those responses has a positive outcome, it just intensifies the situation between the people involved.

Ignoring an insult is probably the best of the normal replies because it sends a message to the person insulting you that they’re not worth the effort to reply to them. This can have two possible results, they will intensify their efforts to insult/harm you or they will leave you alone. Who knows what they’ll do?

Replying to an insult with gratitude.

The reason I believe replying to an insult with gratitude is, you’re always claiming the higher ground for yourself, and with the higher ground comes self-respect and self-confidence. They are the two qualities that will be lacking in the person who insults other people.

For example; if somebody called you useless? And you reply with, “you’re too kind,” “thank you,” or “you’ve beautiful eyes.” It defuses the situation, there’s no comeback. If they do reply with, “I called you useless.” Your reply can only be, “are you looking for another compliment?” To which you will not hear their reply as they will be on their way to find an easier target.

The thing to remember about replying with a compliment is, the compliment has to be real. Before you say, “there’s nothing good about some people,” remember, you’re beautiful and there’s always something good in everybody, you just have to look a bit deeper with some people.

It also helps to remember; people who insult other people are generally very unhappy with themselves, they’re not prepared to change themselves so they try to make other people unhappy too.

I’ll leave you with one final thought.

The person who understands and accepts themselves for who they are cannot be insulted by another person’s words.

Life is too complicated to receive perfect advice

The direction you need to take will be shown to you, after that, it’s up to you to reach your destination.

When you prioritize what you need in your life, your decisions will always be easier to make.

“I never teach my pupils; I only attempt to provide the conditions in which they can learn.” ~Albert Einstein

“I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think.” ~Socrates

The path to enlightenment cannot be seen through somebody else’s eyes.

9 ideas on life I’d share with everybody today

1. No debate was ever won by defending your opinion. If you don’t know both sides of the topic you’re discussing, you’re not an expert, you’ve just got an opinion.
2. You have to understand who you are and what you stand for because you have to be able to listen to people critique your ideas without getting offended.
3. Be open minded. The conclusions you’ve drawn to date need to be open to change as new facts emerge.
4. Only share information online you are proud to stand behind because what’s shared online is online forever, and remember, history has a habit of biting you on the ass when you least expect it.
5. If you don’t understand why people are saying nasty things about somebody, STOP listening.
6. Don’t be a hypocrite, if somebody else is doing the same things you did? You are in no position to berate them.
7. You’ve got to act like the people you want to interact with. “Karma.” I’ve heard people say, everybody I attract into my life is an idiot. (Think about what that means about them.)
8. Try not to belong to any group who believe in any word ending in ism. (Life’s too short.)
9. Expect the unexpected and you’ll never be surprise by what shows up in your life.

 

I wasn’t his target audience although I may be now

The person who wrote, ” one small change at a time will ameliorate your life,” wasn’t communicating with me because I didn’t know what ameliorate meant.

I have since found out the meaning of ameliorate; it is to make something bad or unsatisfactory better or in other words to improve a bad situation.

If the writer had used “improve” instead of ameliorate I would have known exactly what he had been trying to tell me.

That’s why I wasn’t his target reader although I may be now because I have ameliorated my understanding of the English language.

The importance of using words your readers understand is important because, not everybody has the time or inclination to find out what you’re saying if they don’t understand it in the first place.

I understand what ameliorate means now, however I still prefer the easier to understand statement.

One small change at a time will improve your life.

 

 

Everybody can create a positive narrative

A narrative is a spoken or written account of connected events; a story in simpler terms.

I’ve heard the word “narrative” being used on quite a number of occasions over the last few months and it left me quite confused as to what exactly it meant. Somebody would tell a reporter, “that’s your narrative of events.”

I’m fairly sure he meant that’s how you see the situation but he didn’t so I set about trying to identify a simple way to understand the word, narrative.

I’ve used wildlife film makers as an example. The photographers go out into the wild for months at a time and spend all that time gathering material about a specific animal’s life. They then go back into studio and edit the material to make a one hour documentary. The one hour documentary is their narrative of that creatures existence.

Is it how the creatures really live?  Who knows, but as a keen Discovery channel fan, they are very enjoyable to watch.

After I’d satisfied my own need for clarity on what a narrative is, I started looking at how it could be used for people in general. I believe a person’s narrative of their life-story is a strong indication of what their future will look like.

People’s narrative of their lives generally fall into 4 categories.

• People who concentrate on the negative aspects of their life will have a negative future.
• People who concentrate on the positive aspects of their life will remain positive.
• People who concentrate on how they overcame the obstacles in their life will be successful in everything they try to accomplish.
• People who concentrate on being grateful for what they receive every day will be happy.

If you were to create a one hour documentary (narrative) of your life what would your life story portray?

Have you focused on your accomplishments and glossed over your failures, or visa versa? Or have you shown how your failures made you a stronger person? Has your narrative been about the little things in your life that you appreciate all the time?

I believe everybody should be able to look upon their life-story with pride. It should be a balanced view where they concentrate on being grateful for their strengths and weaknesses, and how they developed those traits to create opportunities for themselves.

The greatest opportunity anybody can receive is the opportunity to be happy with the live they’ve been given. I’ll leave you with this line.

A positive narrative will always contain moments of weakness. 

 

 

You only have to predict a catastrophe once

The world will tremble. Birds will fall from the skies. The earth is warming up. Fires will force all to flee before its wrath. The end is nigh. Water shall pour forth from the sea to engulf all who stand before it. A plague shall descend upon the human race.

Some read those lines and declare prophecy while others will see them for what they are. History repeating itself. Everything has a cycle, everything that has happened in nature is set to repeat itself eventually.

It doesn’t take a genius or a prophet to figure that out, you just need to be a good historian.

As you can see doom and gloom is easy to predict. However, predicting a better tomorrow requires more courage because that’s something that’s going to unfold with blinding accuracy right before your eyes. Get it wrong and you’re not going to be trusted with another prediction. Get it right and you’re only safe for another day.

The thing about predicting the future if you want to go down that path is to give everybody the power to predict their own future. Like the law of attraction does in every line; if you’re not attracting the things you want into your life, you’re doing something wrong. A get out jail free card every time.

Really, the only thing you should predict about the future is how you feel about its arrival. It’s the only thing you can hope to have some control over.

If you begin each morning with a prayer of gratitude for being allowed to live another day, your feelings about your future will improve every day.

You can choose to feel any emotion you want to feel

The greatest power you have is the ability to choose what you pay attention to. You can choose to notice things that make you happy or things that make you sad. It’s your decision all day long. If you believe somebody else can make you feel anything you don’t want to feel, you need to take that power off them.

You are responsible for your mindset, whether you agree or disagree is a decision you make of your own free will.