Expect to be everything you want to be but do not ask for it

“The world is your oyster.” ~Shakespeare. Which means, you can have anything you want, all you have to do is expect its arrival. I can hear the skeptics going, “oh yeah, sure.” Please, allow me to elaborate.

Some people find it difficult to believe they have no real conscious control over their own existence, however, that’s both true and false at the same time.

“How?” You may ask. It’s quite simple, the relationship between the conscious and subconscious mind is one that’s yet to be fully understood, however, if you send positive messages to your subconscious mind all the time, your subconscious mind will make you a positive person. And as we all know positive people live positive lives.

Maybe it’s time to set yourself free.

If you like the idea of living a positive life? Just practice the following steps on a regular basis and watch your life changing.

  1. Expect to be rich my friends but don’t ask to be rich.
  2. Expect to be healthy but don’t ask for good health.
  3. Expect to be loved but don’t ask for love.
  4. Expect to have a great career but don’t ask which career.
  5. Expect to be happy but don’t ask for happiness.
  6. Expect to live for a long time but don’t ask how long.
  7. Expect everything you want but don’t ask for any of it.

There is a very good reason behind not asking; and that is, every time you ask for specific things you’re putting limits on what you can have. Remember this quote. “The only limits you have are the limits you set.” ~Anon

There is a great deal of truth in the next line. If you expect to have a good life, a good life is what you will experience.

It’s hard to dispute a good example.

I expect to wake up every day. So far I’ve not been disappointed, however, should a day come to pass when my expectations are not realised, I will not be disappointed because I will have just moved on to the next level of existence.

I’ll leave you with one of my favourite quotes on this topic.

“Perhaps you’re a slave to your own idea of yourself.” ~D.H. Lawrence.

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I aspire to be a positive influence on everybody who wants to be positive


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Your thoughts are the solution to every stressful event you encounter

Which lane is going to get me where I want to goStress is caused when your mind tries to find a resolution to a problem when you do not have the information or power to solve it.

Example: If you consider stressful situations are like being stuck in the middle lane of the traffic jam like that white car.

Unknowable: You don’t know what’s causing the tailback or how long it will take you to get to your destination. You don’t know whether the lanes on either side of you will go faster or slower if you move into them.

What you know: You know the traffic jam will not last forever, eventually the traffic with thin out and you will get moving forward again.

  • Another thing you know is, being stressed about your current situation is not going to help you in any positive way.

stress can be relieved through acceptanceDuring those stressful moments in your life the only logical option is to accept the following. You are where you are meant to be and you will arrive at your destination when you’re meant to arrive.

I’ll leave you with a couple of lines that employ common sense.

  • If your actions don’t relieve your stress, you’ve got to learn how to change how you think about the cause of your stress.
  • Stress is something you embrace, you have the power to release it.
  • Stress is clearly the result of not thinking clearly.
  • You should never stress about what you cannot possibly know.
  • Whatever you accept will not cause you stress.
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Believing in yourself is good for you

When you believe in your future, nobody can take it away from you.

bumble beeAccording to all known laws of aviation, there’s no way that a male bee should be able to fly. Its wings are too small to get its fat little body off the ground, however, the male bee doesn’t care what humans believe so he continues to fly effortlessly along.

That’s one valuable lesson people can learn from the humble bee: Don’t listen to people with limited beliefs about what’s possible.

You may be talented, inspired and motivated, however, if you don’t believe in yourself, those traits will only get you so far. Remember, your belief in yourself is your super power, it gives that edge over everybody else who is competing with you.

How do you believe in yourself?

  1. As long as your beliefs help keep on believing.Accept yourself for who you are today.
  2. Look back on everything you have accomplished in your life. For example; if you have passed one exam in your life, you’re capable of passing every exam you will take in your future.
  3. Talk out loud to yourself, tell yourself how energetic, powerful, strong and courageous you are. If you feel uncomfortable letting other people hear you, put a pair of earphones in and they will think you’re motivating somebody using your mobile phone.
  4. Allow yourself to make mistakes. Believe me when I tell you, every leader makes mistakes all the time, they’re just better at hiding them.
  5. Learn from everybody you admire. Take the traits you admire most about them and adopt them to suit your purpose.
  6. Adopt a positive attitude towards everything.
  7. Live in the moment, if something isn’t going right for you at any given time, don’t cling to that moment, let it go. There will be plenty of moments when everything will go right for you.
  8. Listen to, and accept compliments from other people with gratitude.
  9. Don’t pay attention to insults. They’re normally given by weak people who think they will make them strong.
  10. You are not alone.
  11. Share your opinions. However, don’t expect everybody to agree with you.
  12. Don’t allow your past to anchor you to the past.
  13. Believe in your destiny, you were put on this planet for a good reason.

I’ll leave you with a couple of my favourite quotes:

  • “Every saint has a past, every sinner a future.” ~Oscar Wilde.
  • “We are what we believe we are.” ~C.S. Lewis.
  • “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt.
  • “Never stop trying. Never stop believing. Never give up. Your day will come.” ~Mandy Hale.


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Karma what goes around comes around

Karma what goes around comes aroundHow other people think and act will determine what they attract into their lives (their karma), your thoughts and actions will determine your Karma.

Cursing your enemies may sound like a fun thing to do; “May you get the runs on your wedding night.” or “may you get an itch you can’t reach, are two popular Irish curses. However, they’re your thoughts and if you wish those things for somebody else, you’re really wishing them for yourself.

You’d be better off wishing for them to experience a wonderful happy and healthy life, and wishing for them to win a fortune every year they’re alive. Now, that’s something worth receiving.

How Karma works: If you work on the theory that your karmic force is an all-powerful 14-month-old baby, who doesn’t know right from wrong, positive from negative, good from evil and whose ability to understand language is almost non-existent. All they understand are images and emotions. That’s why the information you’re sending to your karmic force needs to be clear.

If you’re forever cursing people, your karmic force will guide you to find more people to curse. If you’re wishing happiness for people, it will look for people and events to bring more happiness into your life. I’ll leave you with one final thought;

If you knew how powerful your thoughts and emotions are, you’d never concentrate on a negative one.

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Improvement through innovation is strategic planning

According to Einstein, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. If you apply that definition to how management plan for the future, you can determine whether a business will survive. Businesses who do what always do will fall behind their competitors and may disappear altogether. […]

Improvement through innovation is strategic planning
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Some people will always be misunderstood

Everybody lives in a world of their making. Their world is as real as everybody else’s world. From their point of view, the people who disagree with them are the crazy ones.

As I mentioned in the title, some people will always be misunderstood, however, those people don’t have a clear understanding of the world they live on either.

Because, a new perception of the world is born every minute.

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Shaking my head in despair

I really didn’t want to believe what I heard and I was more amazed by some people’s response.

Is history not taught in schools? Are parents not teaching their children right from wrong?

Violence is not the solution to any problem in any country where people are elected to govern and there’s a legal system in place to ensure they do it fairly.

At the end of the day you have to answer one question.

Has hindsight taught them anything?

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Every orchestra needs a good conductor

War doesn’t change anything, it’s the meaningful conversations during peaceful times that create meaningful changes.

Who’s responsible for the damage caused by war, the general or the soldiers?

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Today will happen with or without your consent

Our control over what happens on any given day is limited. The only thing we can control is the attitude we bring to each and every day. However.

The most important thing you can remember is, nobody will travel through life without experiencing minutes, hours or days when they are not positively inspired.

The next most important thing to remember is, those times will pass if you let them go.

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Stop chasing things that do not improve your emotional well-being

The reason a lot of people are discontent with the life they’ve got is they think somebody else is responsible for the situation they find themselves in today.

The answer to everything you ever wanted to know is within you.

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Positive people start their sentences with positive words

I don’t care what they think about me.

That isn’t a sentence you’ll hear from a positive person because positive people concentrate on what they have.

Positive people know they’ve no control over other people’s opinions so the equivalent sentence from a positive person will read.

I appreciate people’s right to have an opinion about me, even one I disagree with.

When you eliminate negative thoughts and phrases from your life, everything that remains has to be positive.

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I will never understand why people repeatedly post selfies

With the introduction of new technology where everyone is connected to everybody else all the time through the internet and everyone is now a photographer because every smartphone has a camera, we’re inundated with pictures. I like this because I get to see parts of the world I wouldn’t normally get to see. We live on a beautiful planet.

I like seeing selfies too if there’s a good reason for sharing them. I like to see how the friends I don’t see too often are changing, sometimes, it’s only to see if I have more hair than them now🤣😂.

I’ve listed some of the positive and negative aspects of selfies. I hope you enjoy reading them.

Me aged 3 or 4.

A selfy is a picture of yourself, if you don’t have a mirror at home, it’s a great way of checking out what you look like before going out. I can understand that.

If someone takes a selfy of themselves and their friends to create a memory of a specific time and date. I can understand that 2.

If someone’s famous for their beauty and the only way they can remain famous is to constantly post selfies. I can understand that 3.

If someone posts a selfy after accomplishing a significant goal like, losing a lot of weight or receiving an accreditation for years of hard work. I can understand that 4.

If someone posts a selfy of a new haircut, not a shorter version of the one they’ve had for the last ten years. I can understand that 5.

Yes, I agree there’s many a good reason for posting selfies. However, as you can tell, I can understand those selfies. The selfies I don’t understand are the ones being posted a couple of times a day, every day.

Mind you, I have come up with some theories.

1. They think they’re so handsome or beautiful, they want to share that with the world🤣.

2. They’re afraid their friends will forget what they look like🤣.

3. They’re so insecure they need constant approval from anybody😥.

I’ll leave you with one final thought. I sincerely hope the reason people repeatedly post selfies is the first theory, however, the third one is the one I’d put my money on, if I was a betting man.

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You cannot change who you are, however

That headline is as true today as it was yesterday, all you have to do now is determine who are you?

It’s not the easiest question in the world to answer, is it? So, let’s start with who you’re not.

Before we eliminate the things you’re not, let’s put in to context what makes up who you are. Who you are, or your individuality, as described by Murray Bowen is the ability to think, feel and act for yourself.

The first thing we can and cannot eliminate is whether you’re male or female. There are millions of each gender on this planet, and some people who identify as something in the middle but that on its own cannot identify who you are.

I’ve yet to hear somebody shout out. Do you know who I am? “I’m female.

The next thing we can definitely eliminate from “who are you” is the colour of your skin. Depending on your ancestor’s journey across the planet you will be anything from pale White to Black. There’s only one human race.

The next thing we can eliminate from “who are you” is your nationality. Being American, European, English, Chinese or any other nationality has cultural influences on your behaviour, however, it’s not a determining fact. I’ve met many people from different locations who, if they were dropped anywhere in the world would still be themselves.

The next thing we can eliminate from “who are you” is your ability to learn or your intelligence. There are some people in this world who were born with learning difficulties, for them that is a determining fact, however, for the majority of people if they were born into the right society, they have the ability to learn anything they put their minds to learning.

The next thing we’re eliminating from “who are you” is your physical appearance. Your inherent beauty, height and weight are measurements people use to sell you stuff, that’s all.

Another thing we can eliminate from “who are you” is your family. Yes, by all means you can say, you’re a Dunne or whatever your surname happens to be, however, when you look around at other family members. Can you really say you’re all the same with the same characteristics even though you’ve been brought up by the same parents if you’re lucky, or if you’re unfortunate enough through no fault of your own to live in a single parent household, by the same parent.

The next thing we can eliminate from “who are you” is whether your rich or poor. Money will only ever determine the things you can buy. If you think being able to buy a lot of things makes you a better person, you will live a very poor life.

We can also eliminate your pastimes from the “who are you” story because, for example, if you play golf, saying you’re a golfer is just putting you into the same category as thousands of other people.

We can eliminate your political or religious beliefs from “who are you” too. They are human ideologies which were created out of chaos to acquire wealth and power.

The next thing we can eliminate from “who are you” is your education. The ability to study and remember facts will help you pass every examination you sit. The most a good education will say about you is you have a good memory.

The next thing we can eliminate from “who are you” is what you do for a living. Career choice is often determined by serendipity, you were in the right place at the right time and ended up doing something to fill in the hours of 9 am to 5 pm every day. From the stats I’ve read a lot of people don’t enjoy the career they ended up having.

Your gender, nationality, physical appearance, skin colour, intelligence, political/religious beliefs, pastimes, family, money, education and career choice are not who you are. They’re just words to describe what you do in the body you inhabit at this moment in time. They are not who you are. Who you are is so much more than that.

So, “Who are you” That’s a question only you can answer, however, if you ask yourself, why you do the things you do?(Your reason for getting out of bed every day). And how do you feel about yourself when you’re doing them? (Are you happy?) You will be in a great position to answer it.

If you’re not happy with your answers, it’s a sign you need to change the things you do or change your attitude towards the things you do.

Remember. You cannot change who you are, however, you can learn to accept the person you’ve become.

I’ll leave you with one final thought.

The only New Year’s resolution you should make this year is to be happy with the person you see in the mirror every morning.

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The world is full of people I will never understand

They’re comedians all right, they’re just not funny ones.

If there’s a straight forward, common sense approach to accomplishing a task you’d think people would use it. However, I’ve been alive for long enough to understand the following.

Common sense can be shared, however, it cannot be taught.

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