Stress is caused when your mind tries to find a resolution to a problem when you do not have the information or power to solve it.
Example: If you consider stressful situations are like being stuck in the middle lane of the traffic jam like that white car.
Unknowable: You don’t know what’s causing the tailback or how long it will take you to get to your destination. You don’t know whether the lanes on either side of you will go faster or slower if you move into them.
What you know: You know the traffic jam will not last forever, eventually the traffic with thin out and you will get moving forward again.
During those stressful moments in your life the only logical option is to accept the following. You are where you are meant to be and you will arrive at your destination when you’re meant to arrive.
I’ll leave you with a couple of lines that employ common sense.
When you believe in your future, nobody can take it away from you.
According to all known laws of aviation, there’s no way that a male bee should be able to fly. Its wings are too small to get its fat little body off the ground, however, the male bee doesn’t care what humans believe so he continues to fly effortlessly along.
That’s one valuable lesson people can learn from the humble bee: Don’t listen to people with limited beliefs about what’s possible.
You may be talented, inspired and motivated, however, if you don’t believe in yourself, those traits will only get you so far. Remember, your belief in yourself is your super power, it gives that edge over everybody else who is competing with you.
How do you believe in yourself?
I’ll leave you with a couple of my favourite quotes:
How other people think and act will determine what they attract into their lives (their karma), your thoughts and actions will determine your Karma.
Cursing your enemies may sound like a fun thing to do; “May you get the runs on your wedding night.” or “may you get an itch you can’t reach, are two popular Irish curses. However, they’re your thoughts and if you wish those things for somebody else, you’re really wishing them for yourself.
You’d be better off wishing for them to experience a wonderful happy and healthy life, and wishing for them to win a fortune every year they’re alive. Now, that’s something worth receiving.
How Karma works: If you work on the theory that your karmic force is an all-powerful 14-month-old baby, who doesn’t know right from wrong, positive from negative, good from evil and whose ability to understand language is almost non-existent. All they understand are images and emotions. That’s why the information you’re sending to your karmic force needs to be clear.
If you’re forever cursing people, your karmic force will guide you to find more people to curse. If you’re wishing happiness for people, it will look for people and events to bring more happiness into your life. I’ll leave you with one final thought;
If you knew how powerful your thoughts and emotions are, you’d never concentrate on a negative one.
Excellent customer service requires two people working together to make one person happy. If one of those people is not playing their part, nobody ends up happy.
The biggest problem in life is people waste too much time and energy overcoming obstacles they don’t need to climb.
When you’re very young you think you need to climb over the obstacle in front of you without considering the alternative routes.
As you gain some experience you look to find the easiest way through the obstacle.
As you mature you realise all obstacles are temporary and if you’re patient that obstacle will be removed from your path.
I’ll leave you with a final thought.
When you visualize a clear path to your destination, a clear path will be shown to you.
The world is full of people who are different in many ways, the only thing they all have in common is, none of them are perfect in every way.
I’ve listed a number of common character flaws in people, which one do you think is unacceptable in a friend?
If you tell me the name of a person who has no flaws, I will tell you the name of somebody you think you know. I’ll leave you with an old saying.
The person who believes their friends should be without fault will have no friends.
“It is not the most intellectual of the species that survives; it is not the strongest that survives; but the species that survives is the one that is able to adapt to and to adjust best to the changing environment in which it finds itself.” ~Charles Darwin Origin of Species.
The greatest gift you can give another person is the ability to think and act based on what’s in front of them.
Whether it’s some famous person asking, “do you know who I am?” Or the person down the road who’s saying or doing something you dislike. The moment you ask the question. Who do they think they are? You’re wasting your own time.
The reason you’re wasting your time is; you’ll never know the answer because something inside of them has made them act is a specific way, and unless you can manage to get inside their head and see everything they’ve experienced in their life-time leading up to the moment before they asked the question, which is unlikely. Every answer you consider will be something you would have done if you had been in their shoes.
Remember. What you see in other people exists within you.
The person who chases perfection will encounter many obstacles on their journey because most people don’t understand what a perfect life entails.
I closed my eyes for a few moments and thought of nothing except that’s exactly what I was supposed to be doing at that moment in time. That was a perfect moment. Now, I’m considering what I’m going to write today and perfection is a thing of the past.
Perfection and imperfection are constantly coming in and out of our lives all the time. The moments we chase perfection are imperfect, the moments we accept that perfection is unachievable are perfect moments.
Schrodinger would have had a field day with that conundrum.
Of course, there’s a very simple explanation, it’s called, accepting the now moment.
The now moment is the realization that regardless of what you’re experiencing in your life at any moment in time, be it good, bad or indifferent, there’s no possible way you could have avoided it.
A perfect life is guaranteed to nobody, however, the person who doesn’t chase perfection will experience a more perfect moments that the person who’s always chasing perfection.
Remember. Your life is as perfect as you allow it to be.
I don’t know if I’m right or wrong but my go-to response to almost everything is to remain silent. The reason I choose to remain silent is, life’s too short to waste contradicting or correcting other people if there’s nothing to be gained except proving you’re right. That’s why I follow the eleventh commandment now.
The eleventh Commandment. You have the right to remain silent because everything you say can and will be used against you.
I found out that if you let powerful people believe what they want to believe; you will benefit in the long-run. If fact, I know one such powerful person who became a permanent resident in the White House. The term, “you’re fired,” is his default response to people who forget how powerful silence can be.
The following are a few lines I’ve heard that make a great deal more sense today than when I was younger.
Reasons to remain silent.
If you’re not willing to be positive, nobody can help you. If you’re determined to be positive, nobody can stop you because you have complete control over your thoughts; you decide which thoughts you wish to entertain and which ones you let go.
The beliefs you possess about yourself and the people you interact with will determine whether you’re a positive or negative person. If you possess any negative beliefs such as.
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Most men are practically orientated, they believe if somebody is telling them about their problems they’re actually asking for help in finding a solution.
Of course, most women don’t have the same mindset, they’re more emotionally orientated. They believe that telling their nearest and dearest about their problems is their way of showing how much they trust them.
The two sentences above is the main reason why men and women don’t communicate with each other in a meaningful way all the time.
Man doesn’t know when he’s supposed to just listen because man is not designed that way.
How do you fix that breakdown in communication?
You’d think there would be a very simple solution to this question. At the beginning of the conversation every woman should simply tell their partner, “I just want you to listen to me without replying.”
This of course is going to cause another breakdown in communication because while man hears the words, “I want you to listen without reply,” he interprets them as, “you can think about football while I’m complaining about my life.” And when his wife asks that all important question at the end.
Well, what do you think? The man is left speechless because was told to listen without replying and when he says, “what did you say?” That’s when the war started.
So, how do you fix the communication breakdown between men and women?
It’s quite simple really, women should talk to other women when they want an emotional ear to hear them and they should speak to men when they need a practical solution.
That’s very sexist you say. You could well be right, however, that’s how society worked for generations and the male mind hasn’t traveled far enough from his hunter-gatherer roots to become more like woman yet.
I say yet because the way the world is changing, we may be moving towards a situation where the only difference between the sexes is a pronoun. (I could put in another word but a famous author recently got into trouble for using that distinction.) Whether that’s a good or bad thing will be determined at some point in the future.
I’ll leave you with one final thought,
Practical people and emotional people are rarely the same people.
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