I aspire to be a positive influence on everybody who wants to be positive


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Your thoughts are the solution to every stressful event you encounter

Which lane is going to get me where I want to goStress is caused when your mind tries to find a resolution to a problem when you do not have the information or power to solve it.

Example: If you consider stressful situations are like being stuck in the middle lane of the traffic jam like that white car.

Unknowable: You don’t know what’s causing the tailback or how long it will take you to get to your destination. You don’t know whether the lanes on either side of you will go faster or slower if you move into them.

What you know: You know the traffic jam will not last forever, eventually the traffic with thin out and you will get moving forward again.

  • Another thing you know is, being stressed about your current situation is not going to help you in any positive way.

stress can be relieved through acceptanceDuring those stressful moments in your life the only logical option is to accept the following. You are where you are meant to be and you will arrive at your destination when you’re meant to arrive.

I’ll leave you with a couple of lines that employ common sense.

  • If your actions don’t relieve your stress, you’ve got to learn how to change how you think about the cause of your stress.
  • Stress is something you embrace, you have the power to release it.
  • Stress is clearly the result of not thinking clearly.
  • You should never stress about what you cannot possibly know.
  • Whatever you accept will not cause you stress.
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Believing in yourself is good for you

When you believe in your future, nobody can take it away from you.

bumble beeAccording to all known laws of aviation, there’s no way that a male bee should be able to fly. Its wings are too small to get its fat little body off the ground, however, the male bee doesn’t care what humans believe so he continues to fly effortlessly along.

That’s one valuable lesson people can learn from the humble bee: Don’t listen to people with limited beliefs about what’s possible.

You may be talented, inspired and motivated, however, if you don’t believe in yourself, those traits will only get you so far. Remember, your belief in yourself is your super power, it gives that edge over everybody else who is competing with you.

How do you believe in yourself?

  1. As long as your beliefs help keep on believing.Accept yourself for who you are today.
  2. Look back on everything you have accomplished in your life. For example; if you have passed one exam in your life, you’re capable of passing every exam you will take in your future.
  3. Talk out loud to yourself, tell yourself how energetic, powerful, strong and courageous you are. If you feel uncomfortable letting other people hear you, put a pair of earphones in and they will think you’re motivating somebody using your mobile phone.
  4. Allow yourself to make mistakes. Believe me when I tell you, every leader makes mistakes all the time, they’re just better at hiding them.
  5. Learn from everybody you admire. Take the traits you admire most about them and adopt them to suit your purpose.
  6. Adopt a positive attitude towards everything.
  7. Live in the moment, if something isn’t going right for you at any given time, don’t cling to that moment, let it go. There will be plenty of moments when everything will go right for you.
  8. Listen to, and accept compliments from other people with gratitude.
  9. Don’t pay attention to insults. They’re normally given by weak people who think they will make them strong.
  10. You are not alone.
  11. Share your opinions. However, don’t expect everybody to agree with you.
  12. Don’t allow your past to anchor you to the past.
  13. Believe in your destiny, you were put on this planet for a good reason.

I’ll leave you with a couple of my favourite quotes:

  • “Every saint has a past, every sinner a future.” ~Oscar Wilde.
  • “We are what we believe we are.” ~C.S. Lewis.
  • “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt.
  • “Never stop trying. Never stop believing. Never give up. Your day will come.” ~Mandy Hale.


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Karma what goes around comes around

Karma what goes around comes aroundHow other people think and act will determine what they attract into their lives (their karma), your thoughts and actions will determine your Karma.

Cursing your enemies may sound like a fun thing to do; “May you get the runs on your wedding night.” or “may you get an itch you can’t reach, are two popular Irish curses. However, they’re your thoughts and if you wish those things for somebody else, you’re really wishing them for yourself.

You’d be better off wishing for them to experience a wonderful happy and healthy life, and wishing for them to win a fortune every year they’re alive. Now, that’s something worth receiving.

How Karma works: If you work on the theory that your karmic force is an all-powerful 14-month-old baby, who doesn’t know right from wrong, positive from negative, good from evil and whose ability to understand language is almost non-existent. All they understand are images and emotions. That’s why the information you’re sending to your karmic force needs to be clear.

If you’re forever cursing people, your karmic force will guide you to find more people to curse. If you’re wishing happiness for people, it will look for people and events to bring more happiness into your life. I’ll leave you with one final thought;

If you knew how powerful your thoughts and emotions are, you’d never concentrate on a negative one.

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Trustworthy and respectful, you’ll regret losing someone with those qualities

The world is full of people who belong to the human race, approximately seven billion, the majority of those people will have two eyes, two ears, a nose, chin, a torso, two arms, two legs, two feet, one neck and a brain which will be covered by skin and hair. These will vary in colour and size depending upon their cultural background. Roughly forty nine percent will identify themselves as female, another forty nine percent will identify themselves as male, the remaining two percent are in the process of defining who or what they are.

It’s human nature for the majority of people to find someone to share their life with, the initial attraction will be physical, however, if you’re to believe science, it’s actually based on aroma. Some people will be successful in this endeavour, some won’t.

The people who are successful in the relationship conundrum will have moved past the physical attraction and onto the most important part of any relationship, and that’s the emotional connection based on mutual respect and trust.

The people who fail in relationships will only focus on the physical aspects of their relationship. They don’t develop an emotional attachment so when physical aspects fail, there’s nothing to keep the relationship together.

Of course, it takes two people to make a successful relationship. If only one person is emotionally invested in the relationship, it will fail and one person will be deeply unhappy.

While love is an emotion, it’s not the emotional glue that holds things together, that glue is trust and respect. If you’re lucky enough to find someone with those qualities, hang onto them because you will surely regret losing them.

I’ll leave you with one final thought.

If you don’t trust and respect yourself, you will be incapable of trusting and respecting anybody else.

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The journey from gullible to cynicism

It’s the inevitable journey of an open mind. We acquire knowledge and then cross reference it with the knowledge we already know to determine if it’s the truth or someone else’s gullible story.

My most gullible story has its roots in religion, for my sins I was raised a catholic and believed the stories they told were true, literally.

For a long time I believed that men had one less rib than women because they said, “God took a rib from man and made woman.” The belief went so far that I believed when pregnant women went for a scan, if they wanted to know the gender of the baby? The physician world count the ribs.

To this day I still shake my in disbelief as to how gullible I was. Unfortunately or maybe not, my default is set to cynicism, if a member of the clergy told me it was raining outside, if I was interested I’d go outside to check if it was or not.

There are a lot of benefits from being cynical but that’s a story for another day.

Please share with me something you don’t believe anymore.

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Not knowing stuff does not make you stupid

Everybody’s guilty of acts of stupidity, however, that doesn’t mean they’re stupid. Not knowing stuff doesn’t mean they’re stupid either. Which means you have to ask the question, what is stupidity. Let’s begin with a definition.

I’ve read the definition of stupidity and it states, stupidity is the lack of knowledge and/or common sense. I think the definition is wrong, at least that one is anyway.

Lack of knowledge. If you only do something once or twice in your lifetime or every couple of years, not knowing how to do it doesn’t make you stupid. Refusing to learn is a story for a different day.

The absence of common sense is something I agree with to a certain extent; but how do you define what common sense is?

In the dictionary it’s defined as having a basic level of practical knowledge and judgement that we all need to live in a reasonable and safe way. Of course, that explains nothing without a few examples.

A person who cannot swim should not jump into the deep end of a swimming pool.

A person who has never driven a car should not give driving lessons.

Basically, common sense means you have to learn to walk before you can run regardless of what you’re trying to accomplish.

If stupidity isn’t the lack of knowledge and/or common sense, what is stupidity?

  • Is stupidity the inability to learn from previous mistakes?
  • Is stupidity believing in something without physical proof?
  • Is stupidity believing you are incapable of being wrong?
  • Is stupidity believing in perfection?
  • Is stupidity not asking about the stuff you don’t know?
  • Is stupidity believing you can change your past?
I’m not one to judge but.

As you may have guessed, I don’t know what the definition of stupidity should be, however, I’m absolutely positive everybody is guilty of being stupid at some point in time. I’m also positive that nobody deserves the title of “stupid” because any act of stupidity is but a moment in time.

I’ll leave you with one final thought.

Just because someone disagrees with everything you say doesn’t mean they’re stupid.

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Nobody can control scammers

Scam callers are nobody’s friend, and what’s more, they cannot be controlled by any mobile network. They’ve been around for a long time and as long as there are gullible people who entertain their attempts to get their money, they will continue to exist.

The majority of customers understand this, however, you get the occasional one who refuses to believe that mobile networks have no control over these scammers, they believe because they’re paying for a phone and a line; the mobile network can fix everything for them.

I have one word, maybe two to describe these customers, however my mother always said to be kind to those people so I’ll let guess what those words are.

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Is talking about body image a female thing?

I spotted this question on a certain social media platform, you notice your naked self in the mirror, what do you think?

I noticed there was over a thousand comments so I decided to see who was commenting and what was being said. As I scrolled through them I couldn’t help noticing the majority of the comments were left by woman who had a positive body image or had a positive view of what they’re body was going to look like in the future.

I thought there would be a greater male-female parity until I realised this platform is being used by more mature people. Women in this age bracket tend to look after themselves to impress other women whilst men tend to generally not care because their days of holding in their stomachs to impress women are behind them.

The answer to the question of, is talking about body image a female thing? The answer appears to be yes, but that’s not surprising because men are more inclined to think about personal stuff than talk about it.

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Science can provide proof of gender

Yes, science can provide proof of gender but that’s based on physical attributes, the human mind is not just a physical entity, it’s millions of electrical impulses generating thoughts to deal with a physical world in which in inhabits. To my limited knowledge nobody has been able to determine what causes behaviour. We have quite a number of theories on the subject, however they’re based on generalities, not on the people who fall outside being considered as normal but not a danger to the public.

Are these people a new species? The answer is no, however, due to the ever increasing acceptance of being considered different is the new normal, we’re hearing a lot more today than ever before.

Never in my life-time has the phrase, “do not judge a book by its cover,” so significant.

The labelling machine is going to need to be upgraded to allow for the changes that will happen. Who knows what the future will be, but that’s a story to think about tomorrow.

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You only need to value one person’s opinion of you

Freedom is within your grasp, all you have to do is be happy with everything you say and do. Treat yourself with the same dignity and respect you show other people. If that’s not good enough for them, you need to question if you’re hanging around with the wrong people.

Nobody can make you feel insecure without your consent.

Freedom is changing your attitude towards yourself.

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The weaker sex is a myth

The weaker sex is a myth in its normal context, it was probably coined by weak men who thought that by speaking the words, it would make them real. You guessed it, the weaker sex normally refers to women.

But, if you’re going to judge people based on one attribute, then yes, men, as a rule are physically stronger than women, however; If you judge people based on empathy, you’ll find the result swings in the opposite direction.

In reality, the weaker sex can be attributed to any individual who uses their physical or mental attributes to get what they want at the other person’s expense.

Men and women have used this method for as long as the two species have coexisted, however, the relationship between the two is in a constant state of flux as the roles traditionally chosen by each gender has changed such as.

Nursing has traditionally been associated with females, that’s not the case today because a lot of men are choosing nursing as a career choice.

In the past the business world was predominantly a male environment but today, nobody’s surprised to hear the CEO is a woman.

Just to clarity, the weaker sex was always a myth. If you need proof? Ask any strong woman. (Maybe your mother.)

I’ll leave you with one final thought.

Your mental strength will survive long after your physical strength has diminished.

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I sincerely hope you get what you deserve

Whenever I hear someone speak those words,”I sincerely hope you get what you deserve,” My first thought is, they’re not wishing good fortune for that person, however, that could be my cynical nature shining through, what if they’re really wishing all of the following for them? I know I’d like to be on receiving end of that gift.

  • You deserve to have good friends.
  • You deserve to have healthy food to eat.
  • You deserve to be loved.
  • You deserve to have a great sense of humour.
  • You deserve to have a roof over your head.
  • You deserve to have good neighbours.
  • You deserve to have good clothes.
  • You deserve to live without fear.
  • You deserve to have good memories.
  • You deserve to receive a good education.
  • You deserve to have a family.
  • You deserve a good laugh on a daily basis.
  • You deserve the right to be heard.
  • You deserve your right to remain silent.
  • You deserve to be respected.
  • You deserve the right to work for a living.
  • You deserve to live in peace.
  • You deserve to have pastimes you enjoy.
  • You deserve to live in a world free from greed.
  • You deserve to live in a world free of bias.
  • You deserve to be healthy.
  • You deserve to live a long life.
  • You deserve to have a holiday.
  • You deserve the opportunity to improve yourself.
  • You deserve the right to vote.
  • You deserve to live in an equal society.
  • You deserve to be happy.
  • You deserve to be fit enough to enjoy everything you deserve.
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Nature will provide a cure for everything created naturally

Penicillin was found in nature and it changed the world.

Bats are supposed to be the source of the many diseases for which they are immune.

Predators whose diet includes dead and decaying animals must have an incredible immune system.

Animals who can kill poisonous spiders and snakes without suffering from the poison exist in nature.

Crocodiles who live in swamps can have one of their limbs cut off and survive the ordeal.

Our scientists, in time, will identify a cure for everything that occurs naturally, however, whether the world hears about those cures is a different question.

I’ll leave you with one final thought.

The hope of a better tomorrow will keep you alive long enough to see it.

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