You Need to Remember the Perfect Moments

“Every moment can be perfect.” Not everybody will agree with that quote but that will not make it any less true, they will say, “how can that disaster be perfect?” The thing to remember is, perfect moments are not always happy moments. A Perfect moment is the realization that it is impossible to change that moment in any way.

“Everything is perfect in its imperfection.”

You are where you are meant to be, everything that happened in your life was meant to happen exactly the way it happened. You were meant to encounter every person you did, even the ones you didn’t like. The people who left you were meant to leave you. Even the boring moments were perfect.

The brain is a wonderful organ, it creates a world for you that mirrors your thoughts, if you believe the world is a perfect place, your brain will show you wonderful things which will seem perfect as they are; the opposite is also true, if you believe the world is unfair, all you will see is unfairness everywhere you look. The thing to remember is,

“The more perfect moments you remember, the more perfect your future will be.”

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The Wheel Bearing on My Car Keeps Whining

“A minor problem can become a major problem if you only concentrate on the problem.” 

It was the most annoying noise, every time I sat in the car to go anywhere, the first thing I would hear was the whining noise from the damaged wheel bearing, it spoiled every journey. The first time I brought it to my mechanic’s attention he said, “that’ll be grand for another few months,” Of course, nobody else could hear the noise at all, my children were oblivious to the noise; when I said I was going to get it fixed, my eldest said, “I was wasting money.” After following some of my own advice I began to accept the noise as part of my journey and it stopped being a problem, it became something I would fix when the time was right. That time did arrive and now I can’t remember what the noise sounded like. It’s like that with most minor issues. “Here today, forgotten tomorrow.”

The above is a typical example of only concentrating on the problem; the noise didn’t stop me from getting to my destination, it stopped my enjoyment of the journey. This happens in life, minor issues become major issues because we give far too much of our attention to them.

“What you concentrate on is what will be most important to you; always concentrate on the good stuff,”

“Life is ten percent of what happens to you and ninety percent of how you react to it.” ~Lou Holtz.

 

The Principles of Positively Influencing People

Andrew Carnegie through the words of Napoleon Hill outlined what he believed were the necessary traits required to live a successful life. The following quotes are based on those principles. Think and Grow Rich  

What You Imagine is Not Always Based on Reality

“The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence,” is a sentence a lot of people believe is true until they jump the fence and find out it’s been fertilized by their imaginations. They thought other people were living a better life because they were looking from the outside; when they got to experience that life up close and personal, they were disappointed because their expectations and reality were so different.

Being tempted to jump the fence is not a bad thing unless you jump without reflecting why you need to move from your current location. When you identify the cause behind your discontent, you are in a position to fix the real reason why you’re unhappy.

If you jump without finding out the real reason, the circle will just begin again. The following quotes are worth noting;

• “The person who is unhappy in a small house will be equally unhappy in a big house.”
• “A person who his happy with themselves will bring happiness with them everywhere they go.”
• “The Devil doesn’t come dressed in a red cape and pointy horns. He comes as everything you’ve ever wished for.” ~Tucker Max

The last couple are true for most people.

• “Lead me not into temptation. I can find the way myself.” ~Jane Seabrook.
• “Let ye who have not been tempted cast the first remark.”
• “Logic will take you from A to B. Your imagination will take you everywhere.” ~Albert Einstein.

 

 

Common Sense is Not Always Easy To Follow

Common sense often over simplifies incredibly complicated situations but when you look back at how you solved the problems you were experiencing, you often resorted to common sense ideas. The following are just a few common sense ideas I’ve gathered over the years.

• “Don’t judge a book by its cover.”
• “It can take years to realise the only place short cuts work is on a keyboard.”
• “The most important lesson to learn from any mistake is to not make that mistake again.”
• “People with common sense are hard to find.”
• “If you don’t look where you’re going, you’ll end up going where you’re looking.” ~Crash
• “Give somebody enough rope and they will surely hang themselves.”
• “You can force a lot of things but you can’t force life.”
• “Experience can lead to common sense but not everybody learns from experience.”
• “Forgive your past; pay attention to the present because it’s a gift denied to many.”
• “A door mat will clean everybody’s shoes but even that wears out eventually; that’s the equivalent of trying to please everybody all the time, you become a door mat.”
• “Don’t start anything unless you intend to finish it.”
• “Actions speak louder than words.”
• “Overcome your insecurities; If you don’t know how, ask somebody else.”
• “A Positive attitude attracts positive results.”
• “Stop trying to impress people who don’t know you exist.”
• “When you cross a bridge, decide whether is needs to be burned or not, and be prepared to die with that decision.” ~ No regrets.
• “You will face enough real problems in your life, don’t invent problems by over thinking.”
• “Understanding what’s within your power to control is vital for your sanity.” ~“Let it go.”
• “Respect yourself.”
• “Successful people do not get to be successful by wishing for success, they get there by working for it.” ~ “I became an overnight success after 25 years.”
• “I don’t know but I will find out.” Is a good answer.
• “The only thing you can change in an instant is your attitude, everything else takes time.”
• “I know what you’re thinking,” is guesswork at best, and foolishness at worst.
• “People will spread lies far quicker than they will share the truth.” ~C’est la vie.
• “If plan A doesn’t work, don’t worry there is another 25 letters in the English alphabet.”
• “It’s better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.” ~Mark Twain
• “Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water.”
• “Take a deep breath and release it slowly.”
• “There is 8760 hours in a year, don’t allow what happens is 24 hours spoil the other 8736.”
• “Failure is not the end, it’s merely the beginning of a new journey.”
• Have a life motto. “I have complete control over my thoughts, emotions, actions and words.”
• “What you believe is often more real than the truth.”
• “You cannot live a positive life with a negative attitude.”
• “The most important person you need to know is yourself.”
• “Everything will work out for you in the end, otherwise it’s not the end it’s merely the end of another chapter in your autobiography.”

Please leave your own favorites in the comments section below.

Gratitude Begins with the free stuff

I bet it’s FREE

Gratitude begins with appreciating all the stuff you get for nothing because, if you don’t appreciate those things, you will not appreciate all the stuff you have to pay for.

Let’s look at some of the things we get for nothing but often take for granted.

Oxygen: It’s all around us, and we get as much as we need for nothing. Some people take it for granted, but others treasure it as a way to relax; when they feel under pressure for any reason, they go outside and breathe deeply, after a couple of minutes everything is under control again. It truly is a wonderful substance.

Light: The Sun brightens everybody’s mood, it’s a lot easier to smile on those days; it also provides us with the light we need, it helps us by providing the means to create vitamin D, and yes, it’s free. Without the sun our planet would not exist at all. Mind you, too much Sun is not good for you, but that’s a story for another day.

Life: There is no turnstile on the way in to this world, no passports or tickets need to be bought. There might be times in your life when you wish it was otherwise but in reality those events are few; we normally spend a lot more time thinking about sad times than experiencing them.

Health: The majority of people are healthy but they rarely appreciate that good health until it is taken away, then all you hear is, why didn’t I look after myself when the choice was mine.

Water: The most plentiful substance on the planet, approx 75% of the Earth’s surface is covered in the stuff, and if you live in a place called Ireland, you will find it falling out of the clouds most days.

The ability to learn: Everybody, regardless of their station in life has the ability to learn; we learn to communicate with our mothers first, then we learn how to get around, first it’s a swim backwards across the floor before we master the art of moving forward, this it’s followed by gaining control of our hands and knees to get where we’re going a little bit faster, we then find something solid to stand beside and take our first tentative steps, more than likely this will be along the couch, then it’s that first step to independence which is followed by a pirouette and a rough landing on the floor; the first of many; after a while we learn to waddle, walk and run.

You get the idea; we are remarkable creatures, capable of learning anything and everything.

Nature: We are surrounded by plants and animals; yes, even the weeds flower in wonderful colours for us to enjoy if we choose to see them a flowers instead of something that needs to be killed.

In life, there is a great deal to be grateful for, but like anything you get for nothing; nothing can be what is thought of it.

• “If you think for a while about all the stuff you get for nothing, it will brighten up your day; if you think about it every day; it will brighten up your life.”

Share Images Your Friends will Love to Share

Social media platforms will only work for you, and your business if you provide content that your friends and customers want to see and share with their friends. The following sentence is the most important message for business owners.

• Your customers will only share information that reflects and enhances their public persona.

Time is also an issue that business owners need to take into consideration, people are pressing the like button on more Facebook business pages every day, so that means it will be increasingly difficult to get their attention because of the increased number of posts flowing through their Facebook timelines.

• So how are business owners overcoming this dilemma, one answer is to pay Facebook to promote their posts or they can pay Facebook. Once upon a time you could share images that would create positive engagement but the algorithm used these days have eliminated that option.

The following is a collection of the pictures I have posted on my own Facebook page that created the most engagement without paying Facebook.

There is no I in team.

Laughter is universal

Spreading happiness is always good for business

Worrying works.

Every image you share on any social media platform enhances your business’s brand, when you associate happiness, positiveness, motivation, humour and open mindedness with your brand, you are well on your way to creating a successful online community.

• Keep it simple to make it memorable.

More images can be found on my Facebook page.

Concentrate on What You Want to Achieve

“Create or attract through focused desire the things you wish for in life.” ~Stephen Redhead.

A positive attitude is the difference between winning and losing, that’s not a secret, successful sportsmen and Women have been using that approach for generations. It works for sports but it works that way in your every day life too. I’m not going to use an everyday example as you know those already. I’m going to use the Maasai tribesmen as an example.

Every year the young men of the tribe go on a Lion hunt as a right of passage, they begin by building up their courage through chanting and dancing before setting out to hunt. They locate a Lion and corner him using the terrain. when the Lion is cornered, the young Maasai warriors surround the Lion to attack him, if the Lion breaks through the barrier of warriors, the warrior who is pushed aside by the Lion believes he is the weakest of the warriors and that is why the Lion chose him as his escape route. This, they believe brings great embarrassment to him and his family.

The warrior the Lion pushed aside may have been the strongest of his generation but he may not have had the right attitude, he could have been thinking, don’t attack me instead of I’m going to attack you. The difference in his attitude would have been exposed through his posture, the slight leaning back instead of pushing forward. The Lion who is the greatest expert on body language of prey would have noticed this and then chose him as the weakest link.

Now, we in the western world don’t go chasing after Lions but we do chase other things we desire, such as the perfect partner, the perfect job, the perfect life. If we have doubts about whether we can get those things, it shows up in our body language. We look at some people and wonder, how on earth did they get that? The thing is, they didn’t have a negative attitude, they believed they deserved it and it was delivered to them. It’s the power of being positive in action.

“A positive attitude will achieve positive results every time, but you have to work on your positive attitude every day.”

Things are Only Temporary

Sometimes it’s worth putting things into perspective, and then you realise things are only temporary, it’s the memories you create that last an eternity. #LIfeLessons

“Some memories are unforgettable, remaining ever vivid and heartwarming.” ~ Joseph B. Wirthlin.

Our goal in life is to create as many of those memories as humanly possible.

You are as Strong as You Need to Be

“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” ~Chinese proverb.

Peace of Mind Requires Observation without Judgement

“By all means possible make your observations but do not share those observations because you can only understand what you’re watching from your incomplete knowledge of the situation.” ~Andrew Strong.

“Before you judge somebody walk a mile in their shoes.” ~Anon. Your knowledge of other people’s lives will always be incomplete.

“The only person you can observe completely is yourself, the day you publish your own results is the day you can start publishing the results you’ve drawn from observing other people.” ~Andrew Strong.

“Your perception of life is your reality; always remember, everybody else has their own reality too.” ~Peter Davies

“Nobody has complete understanding of anything, not even themselves.” ~Andrew Strong.

“It is the mark of an educated mind to entertain a thought without accepting it.” ~Aristotle

“The highest form of intelligence is the ability to observe without evaluating.” ~Krishnamurti

The quality of your thoughts will determine the quality of your life, if you can observe the world around you without being emotionally involved in anybody else’s battle, your peace of mind is assured. What other people think, do or say is not going to change your life unless you let it.

Reading Between the Lines is Essential

“If you don’t learn to read between the lines of communication you will spend your whole life wondering what’s being communicated.” Communication is simple, it’s people who make it complicated.

When I was younger I listened to what people said and expected those words were all I needed to understand what was being said. As I matured I found this isn’t always the case, these days I spend more time observing what’s not be said because it communicates a great deal more.

Below are a few of my favourite quotes on listening.

• “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply.” ~Stephen R Covey.
• “If you make listening and observation your occupation, you will gain much more than you can by talk.” ~Robert Baden-Powell
• “The quieter you become the more you hear.” ~Anon
• “Do not miss an opportunity to learn by speaking.” ~Anon
• “The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said” ~Peter Drucker.

When you consider the written word is only responsible for 7 percent of all communication, tone of voice is responsible for 38 percent and body language represents the remaining 55 percent; you understand why learning to read between the lines is essential.

The Truth will Always be The Truth

The truth will always be the truth; this will always be the case, regardless of whether you like the truth or not.

Mind you, everybody’s version of the truth can be different because any truth that’s not based on provable facts is subjective to the opinion of the holder.

“Accepting a truth, even one you do not like can set you free.” ~Anon

“If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.” ~Mark Twain.

You are Responsible for How People Treat You

“Trying to please everybody is the best recipe for stress, misery and frustration.” ~Anon

“I lost myself by trying to please everyone, now I’m losing everyone while I’m finding myself.” ~Anon

“If you always do what interests you, at least one person is pleased.” ~Katherine Hepburn

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” ~Dr Seuss

 

Not Everybody You Meet is Good for You

The light at the end of the tunnel is real and is always there; if you can’t see the light? Check to make sure there isn’t somebody in your life blocking you from seeing your light.

“Sometimes the only answer people are looking for when they ask for help is that they wouldn’t have to face the problem alone.” ~Mark Amend

Ask questions, people may not have the answers you’re looking for, but they may be able to point you in the right direction where you will find the answers you’re looking for.

Being Motivated to Succeed is Something You Learn

Humans are born with 2 needs and 2 fears; the need for love & food, and the fear of falling & loud noises, everything else they need or fear throughout their lives is learned.

The people who grow up without adding to their fears are the people who are most likely to succeed.

“When your desire to succeed is greater than your fear of failure, you will succeed.” ~Anon

“If you help enough people achieve their goals, you will achieve your own in the process.” ~Anon

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.” ~ Zig Ziglar

What motivates you to get out of bed every morning? 

 

 

A Winning Mentality Will Never Try Not to Lose

“The day you focus on what you do not want is the day you start attracting those things into your life.” Your mindset is the only thing you can control, if you develop a positive one you will attract positive things into your life.

A good example is when somebody thinks; “I don’t want to be overweight,” all that’s being brought to their attention is things associated with being overweight.

If they changed that thought into, “I want to be healthy,” they will focus on things that will lead them to a healthier lifestyle.

In both cases the goal is the same except but if they use the second example, the journey to reach the goal will be more enjoyable.

Sports people have been using this attitude to win for as long as people have played sports. They do not think about losing, the moment they do that they’re giving their competition a helping hand. The true winners will only concentrate on what they need to do to win.

“The day you change your attitude is the day you change your life.”

Today is a good day.