Your thoughts are the solution to every stressful event you encounter

Stress is caused when your mind tries to find a resolution to a problem when you do not have the information or power to solve it.

Example: If you consider stressful situations are like being stuck in the middle lane of the traffic jam like that white car.

Unknowable: You don’t know what’s causing the tailback or how long it will take you to get to your destination. You don’t know whether the lanes on either side of you will go faster or slower if you move into them.

What you know: You know the traffic jam will not last forever, eventually the traffic with thin out and you will get moving forward again.

• Another thing you know is, being stressed about your current situation is not going to help you in any positive way.

During those stressful moments in your life the only logical option is to accept. You are where you are meant to be and you will arrive at your destination when you’re meant to arrive.

I’ll leave you with a couple of lines that employ common sense.

• If your actions don’t relieve your stress, you’ve got to learn how to change how you think about the cause of your stress.
• Stress is something you embrace, you have the power to release it.
• Stress is clearly the result of not thinking clearly.
• You should never stress about what you cannot possibly know.
• Whatever you accept will not cause you stress.

Your phone cannot grant you peace

Too many people use their phone to escape from their everyday life, however, one day, they will realise the world they’re escaping to is far worse than the one they’re leaving behind because it’s based on everybody’s fictional lifestyle.

Don’t compare your life to the one fabulous life you read about on your phone, compare it to the millions of people who have their heads buried in their own phone just like you.

Peace and happiness are the two goals everybody wants to achieve; the only place these are found is within you. If you try to find them anywhere else, you will spend a life-time looking for them.

The day you find peace and happiness within you is the day everybody else’s troubles will cease to be important to you because you’ll let them look after their own peace and happiness.

Remember: You can guide, you cannot give.

Believing in yourself is good for you

When you believe in your future, nobody can take it away from you.

According to all known laws of aviation, there’s no way that a male bee should be able to fly. Its wings are too small to get its fat little body off the ground, however, the male bee doesn’t care what humans believe so he continues to fly effortlessly along.

That’s one valuable lesson people can learn from the humble bee: Don’t listen to people with limited beliefs about what’s possible.

You may be talented, inspired and motivated, however, if you don’t believe in yourself, those traits will only get you so far. Remember, your belief in yourself is your super power, it gives that edge over everybody else who is competing with you.

How do you believe in yourself?

1. Accept yourself for who you are today.
2. Look back on everything you have accomplished in your life. For example; if you have passed one exam in your life, you’re capable of passing every exam you will take in your future.
3. Talk out loud to yourself, tell yourself how energetic, powerful, strong and courageous you are. If you feel uncomfortable letting other people hear you, put a pair of earphones in and they will think you’re motivating somebody using your mobile phone.
4. Allow yourself to make mistakes. Believe me when I tell you, every leader makes mistakes all the time, they’re just better at hiding them.
5. Learn from everybody you admire. Take the traits you admire most about them and adopt them to suit your purpose.
6. Adopt a positive attitude towards everything.
7. Live in the moment, if something isn’t going right for you at any given time, don’t cling to that moment, let it go. There will be plenty of moments when everything will go right for you.
8. Listen to, and accept compliments from other people with gratitude.
9. Don’t pay attention to insults. They’re normally given by weak people who think they will make them strong.
10. You are not alone.
11. Share your opinions. However, don’t expect everybody to agree with you.
12. Don’t allow your past to anchor you to the past.
13. Believe in your destiny, you were put on this planet for a good reason.

I’ll leave you with a couple of my favourite quotes:

• “Every saint has a past, every sinner a future.” ~Oscar Wilde.
• “We are what we believe we are.” ~C.S. Lewis.
• “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt.
• “Never stop trying. Never stop believing. Never give up. Your day will come.” ~Mandy Hale.

 

Karma what goes around comes around

How other people think and act will determine what they attract into their lives (their karma), your thoughts and actions will determine your Karma.

Cursing your enemies may sound like a fun thing to do; “May you get the runs on your wedding night.” or “may you get an itch you can’t reach, are two popular Irish curses. However, they’re your thoughts and if you wish those things for somebody else, you’re really wishing them for yourself.

You’d be better off wishing for them to experience a wonderful happy and healthy life, and wishing for them to win a fortune every year they’re alive. Now, that’s something worth receiving.

How Karma works: If you work on the theory that your karmic force is an all-powerful 14-month-old baby, who doesn’t know right from wrong, positive from negative, good from evil and whose ability to understand language is almost non-existent. All they understand are images and emotions. That’s why the information you’re sending to your karmic force needs to be clear.

If you’re forever cursing people, your karmic force will guide you to find more people to curse. If you’re wishing happiness for people, it will look for people and events to bring more happiness into your life. I’ll leave you with one final thought;

If you knew how powerful your thoughts and emotions are, you’d never concentrate on a negative one.

Some values are more valuable than money

Find somebody who will share their values with you, not their money because any divorce lawyer will do that for you.

“Your core values are your deeply held beliefs that authenticate your soul.” ~John C. Maxwell.

Don’t settle for any mate, find your soul mate.

You have to use your time to create happy memories

The meaning of life is to create as many memories as possible so any time you find happiness in any activity is time you will remember. These will be the happy memories you will cherish as you age.

Work time: You will spend a great deal of your time at work, there’s a good possibility you will not create too many memories there, you may have some memories of the people you worked with but that’s all. You don’t hear old people saying, “I earned a good week’s wages that week.”

Wasted time: Everybody will waste some of their time doing nothing while time passes them by. If they manage to think about nothing during those times we’ll call it meditation so that’s not time wasted either. If they fret about the past or future during those times, now, that’s time wasted.

Sleep time: You’ll also spend approximately one third of your life asleep. Unusual dreams do come up in conversation from time to time but they’re something we normally keep to ourselves.

Pastime: Everybody needs a pastime, they need some activity they enjoy to get them out of their normal everyday existence. It’s these times they will talk about endlessly with their friends as they age, the stories will get exaggerated with time, not because they need the stories to get better, they just won’t remember the story as it happened originally.

Family time: If you’re lucky enough to be brought up in a big family, you will have an abundance of things to remember, normally at the expense of your siblings. I remember one of my brothers ran away from home one afternoon, he was found wandering around the attic a few hours later. When you have your own family you will create a whole new set of memories.

Secret time: If you’re fortunate to live an interesting life, you will create a number of memories you’ll share with nobody, however, every time you think of them they will make you smile.

I’ll leave you with a couple of interesting quotes about time I found:

• “You’ve got to spend time creating happy memories when you’re younger, if you don’t, you’ll have nothing to smile about when you stop creating memories.” ~Anon
• “Time is the most valuable commodity you control, however you control is limited because you have no idea how much time you were given to use.” ~Anon
• “How did it get so late so soon?” ~Dr. Seuss.

You will achieve everything when you are not afraid of being you

Did I mention, I’m not a good ventriloquist either.

when you remove fear from your mind everything becomes possible because fear is the only thing stopping you from achieving every goal you set.

You don’t have to imagine that happening, all you have to do is choose a time when you’re completely comfortable with being you. A time when you’re not trying to impress people with how brilliant you are, or how funny you are, you are just being yourself.

That’s the moment you need to bring into every area of your life because when you feel comfortable being you, everybody in your company will feel comfortable too. I’ll leave you with an interesting line.

Remember: Only ventriloquists achieve success by impersonating somebody else. 

Sorry, I was pretending to like you to get promoted

The people who believe the headline are the people it applies to. Either they pretended to like somebody to get to where they are today, or they were used by somebody else.

*Remember: Some people will do anything to get to where they want to be. However, they should take heed of the following quote:

“Know your limitations and be content with them. Too much ambition results in promotion to a job you can’t do.” ~Ricky Gervais

Everybody else will question its validity because they believe life’s too short to pretend to be somebody they’re not, that’s the role actors dream of, not ordinary people.

In general people do not change a great deal; over time, they just reveal who they really are. I’ll leave you with a few interesting work quotes relating to promotion.

• “I was only kidding, of course they still like you, they’re just too busy with their new role to show you how much.” ~Already promoted.
• “Do not underestimate your abilities, that’s your boss’s responsibility.” ~Anon
• “Due to your new work load, the light at the end of the tunnel has been moved out of sight.” ~ Newly promoted.
• “Every manager I have has it in for me.” ~Never going to be promoted.
• “Your role is to ensure your boss always thinks they’re smarter than you are.” ~Wants to be promoted.

Popularity is not always right

“Be careful when following the masses, sometimes the m is silent.” ~Anon.

Group mentality may feel good, however, just because everybody else is doing it does not mean you should do it too.

You’re better off alone for the right reason than being with a crowd for the wrong reasons.

When you leave what you don’t believe in behind you, everything in front of you feels better.

Remember: You don’t need to be popular to be happy being you. 

If you believe everything you see online, the answer is yes

Every story you read online, in the newspapers or on television should come with a byline. “Believe it or not.”

Can you be hypnotised without your consent? The majority of people will answer no to that question, however, if people believe what’s being shown to them on a daily basis by the media who have their own agenda, they may already be hypnotised.

I don’t believe in jumping on the bandwagon but, good news does not sell, so it’s in the interest of media groups to dig up as much bad news as they can. #Suicide

The thing to remember is; the media is not to blame for the stories they sell, it’s the buyers who hold that power. If people stopped paying attention to them, they would be forced to change.

 

 

Listen to everything and consciously delete negativity

Everybody needs a recycling bin inside their head for anything negative they encounter on a daily basis.

You might think it would be easier to just ignore negativity, unfortunately our minds don’t work that way. Our minds take in absolutely everything we see and hear. If we ignore negativity, it goes in and plays anywhere it likes and it can cause us to become less positive. However, if we make a conscious decision to place negativity into our recycle bin, it doesn’t impact on our regular day to day activities and we retain our positive attitude.

For example: There was a girl I worked with who had the most negative attitude towards work I’ve ever encountered. From the moment she came in she would explain how she had dreaded coming to work, the managers were awful, the customers were painful, it’s too cold, it’s too hot; you’d think at the end of the day she’d be happy going home; not this girl, she ended the day as she began by saying, “I’m not looking forward to coming in tomorrow.”

At first I’d try to explain how she’s in work, she’s not going any place else so she might as well be happy at work. That didn’t work, as the saying goes; negative people will find a problem for every solution.

My next approach was to ignore everything she said, that wasn’t successful either because her voice had the quality of chalk on a blackboard, for any of you who are old enough to remember that experience, you’ll know it wasn’t a pleasant one.

My last approach was to accept her for who she is, I listened to her giving out and then put her negative words into what I now call my recycling bin. Inside my recycling bin is this quote.

This is where I place all the negative things I witness but don’t need in my life.

Negativity exists and will always exist as long as there are people who are unhappy with themselves and what they’re doing. We cannot change those people, or ignore them, we can only accept their presence and be eternally grateful we are not one of them.

I’ll leave you with a few of my favourite quotes:

• “I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.” ~Jimmy Dean.
• “Try to be a rainbow in someone else’s cloud.” ~May Angelou.
• “Inspiration comes from within yourself. One has to be positive. When you’re positive, good things happen.” ~Deep Roy.
• “Life changes very quickly, in a very positive way, if you let it.” ~Lindsey Vonn.

Positive people will tell you what to do

Listen to the people who tell you what to do because they are the positive people in your life.

Any time you see a list that begins with poor people don’t, rich people don’t, positive people don’t, skinny people don’t or fat people don’t; you can be sure the list is going to be as useful as a broken umbrella in a thunder storm.

For example: “Don’t stop believing in you,” it sounds positive, however when you break it down, it says, do not, stop, believing in you. Two negative words before believing. If you replaced the three words with “believe,” you get. “Believe in you.” It changes from a negative to a positive.

Another example: The other day I was speaking with somebody who declared, “I don’t want to work until I’m old and tired.” I suggested they change their words to, ” I want to retire when I’m young enough to enjoy my retirement.” The two sentences will have the same conclusion, the person will retire, however, one is focusing on a positive outcome while the other has a negative outcome.

A simple example: In my current role I ask a lot of people how they are? You’d be surprised by how many people reply with, “not too bad.” That’s still bad, regardless of how you look at it. The people who reply with, “I’m good,” always sound more upbeat.

I used to belong to the, “not too bad,” brigade until a few years when I started to pay more attention to the words I used. I now belong to the group who is always having a good day. I’ll leave you with a line I believe in.

Positive people use positive language.

 

You only need to be good enough for one person

If you’re not impressed with you. You’ll think nobody else is either.

If you’re waiting until you are educated enough to begin, you’ll never begin.

If you think you’re not good enough, you never will be.

• You’re good enough now, and just remember: You’ll only get better with time.

The following quote is worth reading every day.

“Maybe my best isn’t as good as someone else’s, but for a lot of people, my best is enough. Most importantly, for me it’s enough.”  ~ Lindsey Stirling

Believe in everything you want to believe in

Nobody ever got in real trouble for using their imagination, however, believing  in everything you imagine can get you in trouble.

For example:

Imagining you’ve won the lottery is good for you, while spending money like you’ve won the lottery is not so good for your bank account.

Imagining everybody you interact with only wants what’s best for you will make you think everybody is wonderful. It doesn’t matter what they really think, it’s your thoughts that count.

Imagining you’re beautiful is good for your self-esteem, expecting everybody else to agree with you can lead to disappointment unless you’re Brad Pitt or scarlett johansson.

Imagining you’re going in to work to give your boss a piece of your mind might relieve some stress, however, if you carry it out, your boss might give you your walking papers as their way of saying thanks.

Imagining your God is better than everybody else’s God is good for your belief system but you really can’t prove that either.

Believe in everything you want to believe in as long as you don’t expect other people to believe in those things too.

There is one exception:

Do not believe in anything that does not improve you.